Meeting People at Bars

if they don't have a gun to their head...

Thanks for putting "Achy Breaky Heart" in my head.

If you see someone you fancy, catch their eye and smile. If they smile back at you, wait a little bit, then approach them. If you are unsure of the reaction, repeat the catching eye and smiling thing a couple of times. DON'T use a "line". Do say something topical, related to the situation you are in. Say something open-ended, rather than trying to pin them down. Comment on the music, or the bar, or the clientelle or something. If they are interested in you, hopefully they will respond. Try complimenting them on something. (Not in a "huh, huh, drool!" sort of way, but in a casual "Oh, I like your hairdo/shirt/shoes, that's really cool" sort of way.) Once you've exchanged a few sentances, introduce yourself and offer to buy a drink.

Bear in mind that it's not a race. All this can take place over the course of a few minutes, or an hour, or an entire evening. Sometimes a good tactic is to smile at someone on the way to the loo or the bar or something, but not actually talk to them until your return journey. You really just want to get them used to your presence and notice you while being non-threatening. If they see you several times, then they are less inclined to think of you as a stranger, and less likely to be intimidated by the drink-buying offer.

Also, know when to give up. If a person will not meet your gaze, or will not return your smile, they're probably not interested. (If they meet your gaze and return it for a little longer than a single breath, they probably are interested.) If a person doesn't want to talk to you, don't push it. Also, don't necessarily fixate on just one person. Being friendly and open to everyone increases your chances of someone being receptive towards you.

My general rule of thumb is that someone Buying Me A Drink (in a singles bar type sense, not a pub sense) entitles them to my attention and conversation for about as long as it takes to drink said beverage. However, this is rendered null and void if the person becomes aggressive or posessive or suffers from entitlement issues with regard to the drink.

I'm broken-hearted
With all that this entails
It takes some concentrated drinking
To keep me on the rails
I have to hide my face
I have to hide my shame
I don't wait 'til I'm sober
'Til I get drunk again
I drink at home
I drink out
I drink in cocktail bars
Falling down
Seeing stars
It suits me
It suits me
Going astray
In all the bars from here to Mandalay
They never close
We never pay
Chorus:

My oh my
We can't compete
It's only heavy drinking that keeps us on our feet
My oh my
I can't complain
If it weren't for heavy drinking
We'd never play Sweet Jane (Reed)
My my my, oh my
The days go by
I never quite forget her
But goodness how I try
Believe me
Believe me
Falling apart in bars
I like to suffer for my art
Just one more before we part

Don't want to think
About how much I drink
It's a habit that's out of control
Hope I never get dry before I get old.

Trombone (trombone solo)

Chorus

Don't want to think
About how much I drink
It's a habit that's out of control
Hope I never get dry (before you get)
Hope I never get dry now (before you get)
Hope I never get dry before I get old... mmmmm... mmmm

And what kind of person do you expect to meet in the bars? When the cold, unforgiving light of morning creeps in through the window blinds, and a miasma of tequila vapors rises from a damp, unfamiliar bed..

"And you see your weary, lying eyes, in a cracked mirror on the bed..."

Do you wander over to strangers in public places and engage them in conversation?

What's worked in the past is someone just being themselves and, like Kate sez, just talking around something topical, I dunno, like "haha this song is crap isnt it?" or some such general thing. Found myself talking to a complete stranger at the Aphex Twin gig the other night and within 5 minutes we were talking about money shots in zero gravity (dont ask), and thats cos he was so disarmingly laid back about talking any old shit. Mind you my b/f was with me, maybe I'dve been more cautious if alone, I dunno.

Actually I met my current other half at a bar now I think about it. At the time I was going out with someone else, but his disarmingly over-the-top enthusiasm talking about BBC comedies and Futurama totally reeled me in. I guess its chance, that what you start talking about either clicks with someone or not...

Thank you for the advice!! I will give updates as needed.

i strongly suspect that this works more coming from a girl than from a guy...

Also, chatting with people that are "safe" (i.e. partnered) is good practice for feeling comfortable talking to strangers who may turn out to be potential dates.

Have you not seen Six Feet Under? You could have fucked an insane masseuse! Why pass that shit up?

besides, it doesn't happen that much, since practically everyone i know is boring and getting married. (this is an exaggeration, but heading into the wedding season, that's what it feels like)

I'm still shocked that this actually happens. I've certainly not been to the type of places where one meets people at bars, but then again I have only ever really gone w/ friends who I'd like to have a drink w/ and chat w/ so other people never really enter the equation! I can't imagine going to a bar alone. What a scary idea. I wish I had a friend who was good at this stuff so I could just go and, like, watch.

grey's anatomy makes this look so easy.

the key is to swagger in cowboy-style, walk over to the bar, slam your fist on the table, and say "I'LL HAVE A MILK." This will earn you respect from other cowboys, except the evil ones with whom you will soon engage in battle.

this shall be known as the 'sane kate' thread

xpost with custos tribute thread post

I needed to post it

if you hang out often enough in the same bar, you meet people no matter what

I've certainly not been to the type of places where one meets people at bars

You mean, like, a bar? You've never sat at a bar with friends, or at a table, and ended up talking to the next group over when you've had a few drinks because they played a great song on the jukebox or started talking about something entertaining? What the hell do you people do at bars, just talk to the same people you always do in a different atmosphere?

jess otm, I can sadly name what bartender is working on any given day at a couple different bars.

What the hell do you people do at bars, just talk to the same people you always do in a different atmosphere?

Uh, yes? An atmosphere where we can drink cold drinks that someone else pours and/or brings to us, and where we can smoke together, listen to music louder than our roommates approve of, listen to bands with people that we know in them, etc. Also, what do you mean by "different"?

i actually might need to stop going to my regular bar because i can't escape some people who are also always there and annoying as hell

Yes!! ^^ I've had to do this before. Sometimes change it good though.

i actually might need to stop going to my regular bar because i can't escape some people who are also always there and annoying as hell

yeah, i've stopped going to my regular afterwork bar for precisely this reason. i went by on sunday because it's a different crowd and the bartender is a friend of mine. i think i should go out tonight.

Too bad you're not in Boston now. You know you're jealous that I'll be jamming out to the 90s dance party. They won't take my excuses!

yeah i've found if you're at a bar four or five nights a week you make "friends" with the rest of the people who are whether you want to or not

i'll be going to bar where a friend i used to kinda have a thing for will be pouring drinks. her exboyfriend (who really has no use for me, and vice versa) is the dj and he absolutely BLOWS. yet i will go.

last time i was in boston i was already looking forward to going home before i'd even left the t. all it took was the ride from logan to lechemere for me to remember why i left.

xpost- strongo so otm it's painful.

xpost

That was my life in Dallas. Then I ended up working at the bar. Now, I don't have any regular bars. Unless you count my kitchen counter.

haha laurel otm, that's what's happened when i've actually enjoyed going to bars. or i've gone with friends and seen other friends and vague acquaintances, and met a few new people through them. but when i've gone with a small group of people who just want to meet new people or hook up, i've had an awful time, since i would actually rather talk to the people i came with than all go our separate ways.

Gukbe: curlers

chi kev - name names

of bars i mean

I've recently started only going to bars within walking distance of my house, of which there are really only 2 (this is not counting awesome Mexican restaurant*) because fuck the price of a cab ride/drunk driving, however the only people that go to these places besides me and my crew are all horrendous awful annoying people. I am learning to live with the consequences of my choices, I guess.

*awesome Mexican place and their $10 pitchers of Dos Equis and 2-for-1 Margaritas and the poor mariachi ass motherfuckers and as long as we sit on the patio we are generally surrounded with like-minded non-shitards

deej, tumans. i hadn't been there in like 3 weeks before coming in sunday. last couple times i've gone out for post-work drinks i've gone to mac's (which is owned by the same people so i get the same breaks from the same bartenders), beechwood inn, or happy village.

i also wound up going to sak's (the ukrainian bar on chicago & oakley) on sunday. did shots of blackberry brandy and drank russian beer.

see, i like most of the people who regularly frequent the bar i go to. and the bartenders are, uniformly, awesome.

sadly i do know who will be working which night. hell i even know who will be barbacking on which night. LOL alcoholism.

isnt that expensive as fuck? i prefer my fifths of cheap vodka to interacting with other people at 15 bucks an hour.

I live within easy walking distance of 4 bars that I frequent.

One is a beer and (awful) wine (and luckily for me, cider) only bar that shows soccer. Most of the people I meet there are somehow soccer related and I know 90% of the regulars in one way or another and can accurately tell you who is working for about 70% of the shifts.

Punk(ish) Bar with pinball. It's a motley crew but I know most of the regulars and on Fridays and Saturdays, I've met no end of interesting (i.e. temulent) people. Again, I can tell you who's working about 70% of the time.

Irish Bar. Not as good as it used to be, but, of all things, more civilized than the previous two. I know lots of the habitués here but not the majority and I don't really know the shifts that well at all.

Local Bar a block from my house. Rarely go there except to accidentally meet Steve Shasta ;) and I can barely tell you the bartenders' names, not to mention the patrons, but I've certainly met people there. I'm an amiable drunk most of the time.

i know who will be working BOTH SHIFTS.
the thing about my local is that the coolest people have stopped coming in leaving some people i don't mind talking to but they aren't as much fun. there is a seperate group on sundays who are younger and more fun. plus i was there for 7 hours (long story, don't ask) on sunday and my tab was $7.00 so how can i beat that?

xpost to strongo.

xxpost. . .At the bar I used to frequent daily all beer was under $3 and the rest, set-ups. Also, being a regular means you're liable to get a drink or two free whenever you stop in.

kevin have you ever gone to innertown pub? i like that place pretty well

re. expensive as fuck: yes and no. i tend to splash out on expensive drinks right after i get paid and then switch to $1.50 beers when the money starts running out through the week.

also when you make nice with bartenders, they tend to give you free shots (and sometimes drinks)

when you tend to date bartenders, this leads to problems

What the hell do you people do at bars, just talk to the same people you always do in a different atmosphere?

Uh, yes? An atmosphere where we can drink cold drinks that someone else pours and/or brings to us, and where we can smoke together, listen to music louder than our roommates approve of, listen to bands with people that we know in them, etc. Also, what do you mean by "different"?

OTM Laurel. I go to bars because you can talk there, and drink there past 11 if you forgot to grab beer for your own fridge, and sitting in a house can get boring, and music is neat. I don't really go to meet new people although these days I am considering it! xxxxxxpost

If I spend more than an hour in any of those places, except the last, I'll get at least one drink off of the bartender (I don't really 'do' shots) and in one of them, there's a 50% chance the bartender will get me stoned. I'm hardly ever in any of them very late except on the weekend, so I can be a bit sketchy as to who's working the last shifts most of the week.

i didn't really do shots either until the last 18 months or so but i'll take it where i can get it

"just make me something fun"

kevin have you ever gone to innertown pub?

more often than i care to admit.

when you tend to date bartenders, this leads to problems

god do i have a story from this weekend that i will never put in a searchable format.

lol this is largely why i deleted original noize bummerz thread

Heinous or naynous: drunkenly chatting up hilariously teenage teenagers from the patio during "happy hour" while they loiter outside the icecream place next door?

I'm not really sure what I wanted "naynous" to mean there, now that I've typed it. The opposite of heinous, I guess.

nick that's probably the ultimate in creepiness.

chatting up in a coffee klatch or me love you long time kinda way?

yeah i dont think heinous even begins to cover it

classic of course

talking teenage like 19 or teenage like teenpop thread

you mean 30-plus shut-ins?

I met my girlfriend at the Green Mill jazz club. I was hanging with some bros in a booth watching the band, and then I noticed that there was a group of girls dancing near us. So I went up and talked to one of them. The end.

on the good side, their amusement over the story about the creepy old drunk dude will last for a week (xpost)

Teenage like I don't know, old enough to think drunken adults tripping over the curb is funny and not depressing.

that's probably even more creepy than i first thought which was pretty f'ing creepy.

they were laughing at and not with, nick

it's all the same when you're drunk enough, whatever

Other topics of conversation: is that guy trying to park or what?, what is the flavor of the day at the ice cream place, omg that bald guy was listening to Kelly Clarkson really loud haha, if we would buy them beer.

you should start a meeting teens at ice cream shops thread, separate from this one

the other problem with making nice with bartenders is that they begin having fun at yr expense

i.e. last friday when i was a.) very drunk and b.) very clearly still at the bar simply to talk to this girl and c.) the bartenders kept giving me drinks and peer pressuring me to drink them in order to make me throw up

i did not throw up

at the bar

lol

While I'm back in NC I've been to a few bars alone because all my rowdy friends have settle down and I'm bored out of my mind and all that. I was very reluctant at first, but so far the results have been shockingly positive.

Other topics of conversation: is that guy trying to park or what?,

my local = subject of bar bets. many different varities of bets too, will it fit, how many back/forth movements will it take to park, will they hit the car behind them, etc.

Oh that would kill at the Hibernian in Raleigh, where I was last night, alone, initially.

at my local sunday two of the regulars told this old drunk who wandered in that i was gay. he kept saying, LOUDLY, "I'M NOT FUCKING GAY" and talking about how he was from miami and had "done Pamplona" and wasn't no faggot. after the fourth or fifth iteration of "I'M NOT FUCKING GAY" i asked him if he was hand job gay and invited him to the bathroom. he had to be restrained and was booted. it was awesome.

i can tell that i spend too much time at bars because i've taken to doing the crossword puzzle in my alone time

i actually finished one last night. highlight of my week.

i've never once got a buyback/free drink. i'm not the most sociable sort but is there some sort of trick to achieveing this, thx.

tipping

tip well.

smile.

show yr tits.

the only trick is tip well and don't act like a dick. those are my only rules.

I've hung out at one place two times since I've been home, and met the bartender there the first time and the second time he replaced a half-full glass of beer I broke at no charge, and he slipped me a kamikaze.

Tip, dammit!

buying rounds is not good for buybacks. Unless it is rounds of shots in rapid succession

Aaron, you must not have to come into Ships often enough. Obv. also b/c I never ran into you there!

I tip a buck a drink, always.

i actually hugged my bartender last saturday and we had just met that night! :/

the other necessary ingredient to buybacks is TIME

how much are the drinks and how many do you have?

Last night V1c, 3rd wingman and I went out to dinner and drinks too early to chat up drunk girls. We did chat up Cutty and DDB tho.

I tip a buck a drink, always.

You're not british?

(xpost sam my main bar in dallas was the Gingerman, hey I'm a beer freak)

because if you're having one $5.00 drink and tipping a buck you're not getting one on the house.

er, xpost.

I tip a buck a drink, always.

Also, bussing tables of needed glasses when it's busy, picking up food for them, getting them stoned, introducing attractive members of whatever sex they dig, listening to their blather while they're stuck behind a bar, etc...

funniest thing heard at my bar in recent weeks: bartender to two hoes who walked in (not really a fake-tan and excessive eye makeup kinda place) -- "you ladies smell nice."

the sad thing is that i think he was being serious.

Michael 8080.

bussing tables to get free drinks seems kinda desperate to me?

what is this 8080 thing? it is new to me but common

i was pressed into emergency barback duty on a saturday afternoon once and drank the rest of the night for free. all i did was wash maybe 25-30 pint glasses and change a keg of stella until the real barback showed up.

Now I feel like I was preemptively offensive to people who like going out and having a good time with friends. I do that, like I did last night, and will talk just to everyone I'm sitting with -- I was actually getting pissed off at a friend who kept wandering off, since we were all sitting around having a pretty good time and he was off on a wednesday trying to hit on the ladies, or something when we were having a relaxing time.

"Different" place meaning they're presumably people you hang out with at places other than bars, and not 'bar friends.'

Bartenders are pretty much everything when talking to random people.

8080 = nuOTM, Maria :)

xxpost

I loved my old bartenders and if they were busy, I'd lend a hand. I wanted to help them. Sometimes I'd pull cases out of the cooler b/c my favorite lady had a bad back. Also would help to clear out the place at closing time. They were my friends and that kindness was always repaid. Once, when I had had car trouble and was really broke one of the bartenders and a regular got together and bought me groceries and cat supplies.

They are the noize bored, and we basically always hang out at bars. It's less fun to drink together on teh internet.

i don't know how you new yorkers can afford to go out to bars so much

Bussing glasses is totally awesome and not desperate at all! Bussing other tables is sort of weird maybe if you don't know the bar at all, but if you see that someone's busy and running low on glasses and there's no barback in sight, you could always do them a favor -- they'll appreciate it. Anyway, you should always bus your OWN table, esp if your friends are the type who get up and walk away from a mess.

XP: We only go to bars where we know the bartenders. See "buy-backs" thread.

Yeah, I'm in the same boat as wanko ergo sum: I always tip a dollar per drink, so I never see buybacks. I'm fine with that, though. The way I see it, to get a buyback, I'd have to tip two dollars on at least a couple of drinks. Then I'd get the buyback, and I'd have to tip another couple dollars on the buyback to show my gratitude*, and at that point, I'm basically just paying for the drink. When there's a risk involved as to whether or not you're going to get the "free" drink in the first place, it doesn't make much sense to go that route. Unless I'm totally misunderstanding the concept, which is possible.

*This is what I do when I get free drinks for non-buyback reasons, like a) the bar's about to close and the bartender doesn't feel like opening up the cash register, or b) the bartender got me the wrong drink, or the order took too long, or whatever.

one thing that's weird is when my "real friends" and i go out to a bar and happen to go to my local (because it's close and they have good food) and then the two groups "real friends" and "bar friends" interact. and then it became totally insane when a 'real friend' started working as a waitress at the local. thankfully she has since been fired.

ohhh hahaha!! I thought you meant bussing other people's tables. your own, yeah, i do that anyway.

probably not thankfully for her.

no, not.

Laurel, essentially said what I was going to. I will neither expect a free drink nor buss for a bartender I don't know and like much, but then I wouldn't hang out in that bar would I, and while I am in a bar, it's merely neighbourly to be of service. If you did it specifically to get a free drink, it would be creepy.

I REFUSE TO REHASH THE BUYBACKS THREAD.

Btw, I basically tip a dollar a drink, regardless of cost but a free drink will earn them a 2 or 3 buck tip, depending.

C'MON IT WAS SO MUCH FUN THE FIRST TIME

ON THE INTERNET

I've never really had a "local" or gone to one bar often enough to get to know the bartender. I think my life is poorer for this.

(maybe this fall, after I move out of this boring-ass neighborhood)

Anybody suddenly thirsty for a tipple?

haha i was going to take tonight off U_U

Almost every time I go out to a local bar to drink with friends, I'll either run into someone I know, or my friends will run into someone THEY know.

It is a good way to meet people.

This thread is suddenly like going to see an old French movie in a theater. Every other character is smoking and I have to wait 2 hours to go out and light one up.

I was sort of confused about this "bussing your own table" business, but do you just mean taking your empty up to the bar when you're ready for another? I do that in part because if I'm drinking pints, I'd rather they just use the same glass than have to take out a new one. (Although at places where it's loud and I have to fight through a crowd to order a drink, it's usually not worth it, so I'll just put the empty on the bar.)

If you have table service, though, someone else is expected to bus the table, right?

Anybody suddenly thirsty for a tipple?

tomorrow is my last day of work at this job and i will be god damned if i'm not coming in late and hungover. i was going to wait until 10 because a friend tends bar in uptown but i think i might go to a different bar on my way home.

seriously i would rather hit myself in the temple with the claw end of hammer than try explaining bar-dynamics again.

Neither of my "locals" are, really. One is a $15 cab ride from home and the other is a 20-minute bike ride. Still, I like them.

XP: don't worry, Michael, I'm working til almost 7 and then going to a two-hour rehearsal = I won't be smoking until about 11pm anyway.

Almost every time I go out to a local bar to drink with friends, I'll either run into someone I know, or my friends will run into someone THEY know.

It is a good way to meet people.

Yeah, this. 8080. Also since I started only going to within-stumbling-distance establishments the chances of a bunch of people coming over to my house post-drunkening for jams/video games/lord only knows have increased, like, THOUSANDFOLD.

my "local" is a 3 block walk away and have to pass two other bars to get to it. one good thing about my 'hood is that there is literally a bar on every corner. there are some with four bars on every corner.

God I would love visit Red's, the only bar I know of here in Belton, TX, but I have no car and don't know anyone who would want to go with me. It's looks like such a meth-addled freak scene. I haven't spent enough time in bars like this.

I am so hungry for beer right now.

I like bars a lot, but I don't know that I can really afford (both financially and physically) to drink on a regular enough basis such that I have a local where I know everybody there. I also like trying out different places when I do go out.

jaymc, I'm talking about a bar where there's a rush for whatever reason and the bartender or barback hasn't made it out and the tables are covered in glasses. If you ever pay attention to that shit like a bartender does (or should) and lend a hand, and they're not assholes, they'll stand you one every once in a while.

There was a new and inexperienced bartender who got in trouble 'cause a bunch of the locals resented the fact that after many hours of boozing (and the requisite tipping) she hadn't given anyone any free drinks. I told her it was good business in SF, for a bartender to take care of his/her customers but I also told her they were assholes for expecting free drinks and berating her. It's a subtle negotiation, not a buy-ten-coffees-get-one-free-punch-card-system.

As far as I'm concerned it's like the secret menu at Taco Bell.

mine is directly across the street. like a quarter of a block. it's really the worst set up ever.

Yeah, that makes sense, MW.

It's a subtle negotiation, not a buy-ten-coffees-get-one-free-punch-card-system.

That's probably why I simply prefer to avoid it.

It's a subtle negotiation, not a buy-ten-coffees-get-one-free-punch-card-system.

exactly, there's a somewhat well-off (for that place) douchebag who is a regular at tum4ns who tips a fuck of a lot more than i do but he's such an annoying little prick with a napolean complex that he never gets a buy back.

my "local" is a 3 block walk away and have to pass two other bars to get to it. one good thing about my 'hood is that there is literally a bar on every corner. there are some with four bars on every corner.

-- chicago kevin, Thursday, June 7, 2007 9:13 PM (4 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

i really will miss the ukv :(

oh shit, i haven't shaved in like 5 days and look like ASS. this will not deter me from going out after work but it may prove to be an impediment to looking presentable when i go out later tonight.

i also find that if you're a position to give the bar "best of" awards for a local publication, they tend to like you a lot

not that i would ever abuse my power in this way

yeah not getting buybacks gives me a complex, like AM I NOT A BRO? xxxpost (sorry to keep on this)

you can't shave in between anywhere? xxp

haha kevin i basically look like a bald ex-surfer (i'm wearing shorts and vans for chrissakes) who's gone to seed with eight days beard growth these days and that doesn't stop me from doing...well, anything

Ha, Jess, I was just thinking maybe I'd go out more if the bar was literally right across the street. I mean, the closest bar to me is Hopleaf, which I love, but it's like three or four blocks (which of course isn't *that* far, but I'm lazy), and on top of that, it's frequently packed and the drinks are expensive. But I once dated someone who lived right across from Guthrie's, and we did go there an awful lot.

Actually, I just realized, Garcia's is probably the closest bar to me, but drinking a margarita in an empty restaurant with Spanish-language TV on and no place to smoke is sort of sad.

i look like i should be busking jimmy buffet songs at the inner harbor

deej, you're only a short bus ride or two from the village, no need to be a stranger. also, i'm going to mac's on division for post work beers if you want in. division and wood i think? 1800 w. division?

This thread definitely makes me want to drink something fierce, but I'm wondering if I should just wait until tomorrow when I'm playing a show and can get smashed afterwards.

yeah sure. is that closer to ashland? i forget xp

you can't shave in between anywhere? xxp

seeing as i'm going directly from this desk to the bus to the train to the bar no, no i can't.

xpost- two blocks west of ashland, two blocks east of damen on division. south side of the street.

i just found out last night @ danny's this dude i went to h.s. with opened a restaurant in that area ... he said he would 'hook me up' if i stopped in

seeing as i'm going directly from this desk to the bus to the train to the bar no, no i can't.

Why don't you hit a drugstore for a throwaway razor, and a public restroom in there somewhere?

because there isn't one between here and there.

Damn, yo. I thought they was everywhere. Why the rush to the bar though? Did I miss sthg upthread?

BECAUSE I HAVE A POWERFUL, MAN-SIZED THIRST.

and i don't mind having an itchy beard for a couple more hours, i'm just thinking that i wanted to look presentable tonight and instead will probably be cut up or will have shaved and missed huge spots of beard.

presentable schmentable

if it's really your bar, they will expect you to look like the busking hobo you really are

What Strongo said.

Why don't you hit a drugstore for a throwaway razor, and a public restroom in there somewhere?

I learned many years ago not to do this. Cheap razors and public restrooms are sadder than jaymc's Garcia's and eventually the liquor will make you cease to care how feral your facial hair is, so screw it and just go drink.

no, i was talking about later tonight where my friend we be working. her crowd skews less "old man drunk" more "hot early 30s females".

on that note, i am going to go home. and shave. and then go to a bar. (i have four hours before it's go time! lucky me!)

GL with scratchy face kev D:

Also, don't shave after you've been to the bar. Drinking expands the capillaries and makes shaving nicks into fun little facial blood geysers.

thanks man, good luck with the chatting up or not chatting up girls.

xpost- well fuck me.

http://h1.ripway.com/Dallas/-Dallas-/The_More_You_Know2.jpg

the liquor will make you cease to care how feral your facial hair is

feral slut beard

maybe if i'm REEEEEAAAALLLLY careful...

i think i dated a girl once who had a feral slut beard

I met my roommate at a bar. She's hot-ish. Albeit boring and a possible cokehead.

-- Gear! (Gear!), Wednesday, 28 January 2004 23:01 (3 years ago) Link

cokehead at a bar? that's unpossible

Buy two razors, shave downwards, use lots of astringent cold water and don't be too persnickety and you should be fine.

I was referring to the couch incident, but yeah, maybe that was earlier

modern girls find the scruff very attractive men. i cant explain it but it works. (old-fashioned women would still prefer you not jerk off ever & are cleanshaven. but most of them wear skirts that are too long to pique my interest)

Thank goodness for that.

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I don't have the beard to go for more than a day with out shaving. It's less aesthetics and more just about comfort, but jerking off's okay and skirts of all lengths, depending on the ladies who are in them, still pique my interest.

I met a girl at a bar last night, but she had to go back to Minnesota today.

also btw i was sweaty & unshaven and she told me I smelled nice.

obv not the Union Pool ;)

no no no, black&white. i don't go to union pool if i can help it.

I Like This. Well, not the going back part.

<3

It does wonders for one's self esteem to have a stranger chat you up ime.

send her my way

i met a guy at a bar for the first time this summer. we were tipsy and dancing and having lots of fun there, and then later we had a pretty awkward first date, which i was really not expecting! it was like "so this is how you are sober, huh?" so i guess i shouldn't have been surprised. (he did turn out to be a good guy though.) perhaps i have gained insight into how "most people" supposedly live, perhaps not....

I know who I am
and the person I am at home
is not who I am.

Cigarettes I suppose
Because she liked them
And her boyfriend did not