I gotta go D on this one.
― Dom Passantino, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:07 (nineteen years ago)
was she hot though?
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:11 (nineteen years ago)
nobody's ever gone psycho on me, which is pretty amazing all things considered. it's not like i don't deserve one.
― CharlieNo4, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:12 (nineteen years ago)
If she put as much effort into skin cleansing as she does into being crazy, maybe she could be.
― Dom Passantino, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:15 (nineteen years ago)
people who are crazy afterwards tend to be needy beforehand. theres usually warning signs about these things. maybe it depends if you like people that are going to be reliant on you so you can be in control of them or something. not for me though
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:19 (nineteen years ago)
i agree. clingy neediness when things are goin good: flattering. the same, later, "psycho"
― Tracer Hand, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:33 (nineteen years ago)
ie, a lot of the time with 'crazy stalker exes' the other person is also kind of as much to blame, in that certain modes of behaviour are actually encouraged (when it suits)
or, needyness and crazy-psycho-exes are both examples of low self-esteem and/or lack of self respect, and therefore an unequal power balance, which can be attractive to certain people who might want to feel or exercise a certain...dominance?
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:41 (nineteen years ago)
Gareth is pretty frighteningly OTM.
It's really easy to label a girl "psycho ex girlfriend" but not so easy to look at your own behaviour and realise what you've been doing to provoke her reactions.
― Klaus M. Flanger, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:44 (nineteen years ago)
Which doesn't put the blame on the victim. Stalking is unwanted attention. I know what you mean, but I really hate it when some of the blame is put on the victim (if s/he made it clear s/he doesn't like the attention).
There are signs? Twenty twenty hindsight (sometimes).
― nathalie, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:52 (nineteen years ago)
i think people usually end up with the kind of people they deserve. most behaviour is pretty predictable really, though maybe we only realise this subconsciously a lot of the time
most of mine are the complete opposite from what dom describes, leaves-in-the-wind when i met them, vanish into the ether afterwards. i like things to be easy, low pressure, no drama, and im also way too visually focused. so, similarly its not really a surprise that i end up with this kind of girl
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:52 (nineteen years ago)
there are always ALWAYS signs
(i meant to type psycho rather than stalker). but its pretty common that this kind of behaviour IS predictable (the friends usually see it straightaway for a start)
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:53 (nineteen years ago)
(ie, im pretty superficial when it comes down to it, so i encourage the negative sides of my own relationships, which is basically flightyness)
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:55 (nineteen years ago)
It is, true, but being in love=being somewhat naive and you fool yourself. You NEVER see reality, the world, the person as it is until it's *too* late.
And fuck people who say about this (and abusive relationships:"It'll never happen to me!" It angers me enormously when people (including my friends) say this. I nearly froth at the mouth when they say this.
Oh ffs, Gareth, they deserve that? Nobody deserves abuse (unless they are masochistic). Sorry, but you're completely wrong in this case. You may be strong and casual about emotions and (wrongly) think you're not going to be the <I>fool</I> who falls for that. You're only naive (or you can easily to switch off your emotions). Relationships are very tricky things: you fall in love and you are blind (up to a degree).
― nathalie, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:56 (nineteen years ago)
somewhere between want and deserve then (lets not forget, this negative behaviour was probably not viewed as negative DURING the relationship)
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:57 (nineteen years ago)
there's another kind?
― strongohulkington, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:59 (nineteen years ago)
never said i was strong or casual, dont really think its about that necessarily. its about behavioural archetypes
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:59 (nineteen years ago)
j/k ladies, u kno i love u
bitches, huh
― A B C, Monday, 21 May 2007 12:59 (nineteen years ago)
some people have a need to be destructive, others have a need to be destroyed.
― Ronan, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:00 (nineteen years ago)
and, hey, maybe you guys are the crazy psycho exes too?
why do you think im moving?
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:00 (nineteen years ago)
oh shit, i just remembered
there was an article about this in yesterdays daily mail
i only had time for a cursory reading of it, but i think it was enough to tell me
oh i've totally been the crazy psycho ex in my day
― strongohulkington, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:01 (nineteen years ago)
crazy psycho exes = 99% of the time really funny from the outside. because they are crazy psychos, the dudes are right, but they also usually have reason, because the dudes also deserve it
― lex pretend, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:02 (nineteen years ago)
Not all crazy exes are needy. Some are sociopaths who are very funny and charming at first and then they start controlling your every move and then they start abusing you and then when you leave them they call you at 5AM every night threatening you and then three years later when your best friend is their TA at college CONTINUE TO ASK ABOUT YOU.
Just saying, it's not always needy-turn-psycho. Sometimes it's nice guy-turn-monster.
― jessie monster, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:03 (nineteen years ago)
Boys often like crazy girls when they first meet them but then later the boys gets tired of all the craziness and shout jeeringly at the girls that they are crazy. -- estela (estelaisale...) (webmail), July 10th, 2003 1:16 AM. (estela) (later)
― ^@^, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:04 (nineteen years ago)
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ 8080
^^^^ that is my favourite good charlotte song
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:05 (nineteen years ago)
girls that hold cards are hotter than girls that dont btw. but, they might play a different card than you
girls that dont hold cards have to follow your lead, you shouldnt go for them though, even though your guaranteed to win the hand
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:06 (nineteen years ago)
what crazy card-based speed dating have you been involved in?
― jessie monster, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:07 (nineteen years ago)
it was this weird game called Basketball
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:07 (nineteen years ago)
i've been dealt a few jokers
― blueski, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:08 (nineteen years ago)
If you're gonna play the game boy, you better learn to play it right.
― Dom Passantino, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:08 (nineteen years ago)
i dont have a gameboy:(
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:09 (nineteen years ago)
Usually, when people talk about "crazy psycho exes" there tends to be a bit of showing off, like "look how upset they are!". Because they really want to feel wanted, and want other people to see that they are wanted.
Also, it's a bit dishonest, because it's a kind of refusal to properly acknowledge the fact that "they are really angry with me about something", which is a bit different.
Unless they are actually mentally ill, in which case, hey talk about them on an internet board using your full name, that's bound to be helpful.
― Matt DC, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:09 (nineteen years ago)
i have totally been a crazy psycho ex before, but i doubt i would be these days.
also is it just my imagination or has gareth been saying "there was an article about this in yesterdays daily mail" on every thread lately?
― homosexual II, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:10 (nineteen years ago)
Even a cursory reading of every thread would tell you that.
― Matt DC, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:11 (nineteen years ago)
gareth gets up at 5 every morning to steal my copy from my letterbox
― blueski, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:11 (nineteen years ago)
i think the article was about paul scholes' leather pants
xpost
― Tracer Hand, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:12 (nineteen years ago)
i wonder why Dom's 'crazy psycho ex' struck at the weekend - shoulda waited til today for bigger coverage. fookin amateurs.
― blueski, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:12 (nineteen years ago)
OTM OTM OTM OTM 8080 TO THE POWER OF A MILLION
It's just another way to be dismissive of female anger, oh they must just be crazy to be violating gender roles of nice, nuturing females - never mind that there might actually be something to be angry about.
― Klaus M. Flanger, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:13 (nineteen years ago)
I was actually going to say something like "it's not just dismissiveness of female anger", and then I realised it probably is.
Maybe it's because I don't hear women bandying about the term "psycho" about male exes. Or not as much anyway, because that carries serious connotations that (rightly or wrongly) are not as easily dismissed as with female "psychos".
― Matt DC, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:20 (nineteen years ago)
woman be hysterical
― Tracer Hand, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:21 (nineteen years ago)
i think i know what this is about
― ^@^, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:22 (nineteen years ago)
Instead of "pyscho" I've referred to male exes as "cruel" and "mysognistic" which is worse I think.
― Ms Misery, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:24 (nineteen years ago)
when are people going to learn that the way to deal with some one who's wronged you is to act nonchalantly and sleep with her/ his friend's?
crazy gets you nowhere.
― will, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:26 (nineteen years ago)
men get the 'creepy' label a lot more than women tho (perhaps deservedly so in terms of ratio but there still seems an imbalance, maybe based on who tries to initiate stuff most often)
― blueski, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:28 (nineteen years ago)
Well yes, "creepy" for men means "crazy psycho" for women. "Crazy psycho" for men usually means "wife-beater". It's a differently loaded term when applied to men.
― Matt DC, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:31 (nineteen years ago)
Like women never get called "creepy"?
― Masonic Boom, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:32 (nineteen years ago)
They get called "psycho" more often, by men AND other women. I very rarely hear women called "creepy".
― Matt DC, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:33 (nineteen years ago)
i can probably think of some who have
― strongohulkington, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:33 (nineteen years ago)
I get called creepy all the time. :-/
LOL.
― Masonic Boom, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:33 (nineteen years ago)
yes, that was the joke
― strongohulkington, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:34 (nineteen years ago)
AWKward...
― Tracer Hand, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:36 (nineteen years ago)
:-D
― strongohulkington, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:36 (nineteen years ago)
i would feel awkward in leather pants too.
― blueski, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:37 (nineteen years ago)
I thought I'd get the joke in before someone else did.
::rolls eyes::
― Masonic Boom, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:37 (nineteen years ago)
i wish we could do LJ-style polls so i could do a 'which of these behaviours are any creepycrazypsycho at all' poll
― blueski, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:40 (nineteen years ago)
You and your polls...
― kv_nol, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:42 (nineteen years ago)
this thread is gonna be so dope by the time i get back from work
― A B C, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:43 (nineteen years ago)
it's too bad www.psychoexgirlfriend.com doesn't exist any more. if i had to guess i'd say it got shut down for legal reasons.
― Tracer Hand, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:43 (nineteen years ago)
otm! rule one if you're hurt by someone's behaviour = don't show it, don't act like they even cross your mind at all. rule two = effect series of small but satisfying revenges if you want but really you should be following your rule one.
going psycho on them just gives them attention, and that's what they wanted in the first place.
― lex pretend, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:44 (nineteen years ago)
Is dontdatehimgirl.com still around?
― Ms Misery, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:45 (nineteen years ago)
What happens when they don't have any friends?
― Matt DC, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:49 (nineteen years ago)
family
― strongohulkington, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:50 (nineteen years ago)
coworkers
― strongohulkington, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:51 (nineteen years ago)
their other exes
(works better for heterosexual men if the ex in question happens to be a lesbian)
hey i've only started like three. STOP STALKING ME PSYCHODUDE.
― blueski, Monday, 21 May 2007 13:51 (nineteen years ago)
LOL @ paranoia...
(WHY YOU BRAKE UP WITH ME!? BASTARD! I DUMPED YOU! OMG GONNA KILL MYSELF UNLESS YOU CALL ME!!!)
(j/k. Not really. I love you still blueski)
― kv_nol, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:00 (nineteen years ago)
what's really good is when you can BOTH be the crazy psychopath ex
― strongohulkington, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:01 (nineteen years ago)
I had a "crazy psychopath ex". In her case, mental instability was definitely an element, and she was sectioned for a time. I wouldn't want to deny all blame myself: yes there was an aspect of it being very flattering when I wanted the attention (and very sexy too in a Betty Blue kind of way), and fucking awful when I didn't. But fucking awful it was. She wrote to my parents to tell them I'd raped her; she'd wait outside my flat at two in the morning and then start screaming when I came home; she'd phone me up and leave a message on my answering machine to say she'd swallowed a whole bottle of tranquilisers (and I'd have to call an ambulance to be on the safe side)... I never want to have to live through that shit again, it was the absolute worst.
― underpants of the gods, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:01 (nineteen years ago)
alternate weekends like a divorced couple with the kids
That should be a Jarvis monologue
― Michael Philip Philip Philip philip Annoyman, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:03 (nineteen years ago)
she'd wait outside my flat at two in the morning and then start screaming when I came home
i always think to myself if i ever had this, i would leave the house and as she was following i would go to the bus station and get a bus to dnepropetrovsk to see if she followed
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:21 (nineteen years ago)
i figure she'd get bored by the time we got to ashford
good feature on dnepropetrovsk in today's daily mail
― blueski, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:27 (nineteen years ago)
yes, i saw that, the one about buy-to-lets?
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:29 (nineteen years ago)
foucault seemed to suggest that donetsk was a better bet though
<i>she'd wait outside my flat at two in the morning and then start screaming when I came home
i always think to myself if i ever had this, i would leave the house and as she was following i would go to the bus station and get a bus to dnepropetrovsk to see if she followed</i>
You wouldn't have wanted her following you wherever the fuck you were going, let me tell you. I used to hail a cab and go and stay somewhere else. The last thing I wanted to do at 2 in the morning having just come off a bar shift.
― underpants of the gods, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:33 (nineteen years ago)
the leather pants market there is enormous (xp)
― blueski, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:35 (nineteen years ago)
when are people going to learn that the way to deal with some one who's wronged you is to act nonchalantly and sleep with her/ his friend's? What happens when they don't have any friends
I would hope they didn't fuck their momma.
― nathalie, Monday, 21 May 2007 14:37 (nineteen years ago)
My craziest ex would talk to herself in a really low voice and she would deny that she was doing it.
― libcrypt, Monday, 21 May 2007 18:15 (nineteen years ago)
She was on anti-psychotic meds, too, which didn't seem to work all that well.
― libcrypt, Monday, 21 May 2007 18:16 (nineteen years ago)
In context, I thought "LJ-style" meant "Louis Jagger-style."
― jaymc, Monday, 21 May 2007 18:22 (nineteen years ago)
LL Cool J style
― kenan, Monday, 21 May 2007 18:26 (nineteen years ago)
I'm that type of guy.
― kenan, Monday, 21 May 2007 18:27 (nineteen years ago)
Dom is she the wikipedia vandal?
― Catsupppppppppppppp dude 茄蕃, Monday, 21 May 2007 18:30 (nineteen years ago)
My early and mid-20's were loaded with psycho-ness on all sides. I behaved badly, and I was treated badly, usually, when you consider causes and effects, in fairly equal measure. Gareth OTM about ending up with the person you deserve. I had (have?) a need to be controlling, and ended up with needy girls. The whole thing ended, time and time again, with both of us just feeling crazy around one another, and behaving accordingly.
And yeah, there are always signs, but how is a 22 year old boy or girl supposed to know what they are?
― kenan, Monday, 21 May 2007 18:30 (nineteen years ago)
That's me! *flutters away*
― Abbott, Monday, 21 May 2007 20:27 (nineteen years ago)
but wait, 22 year olds ARE CRAZY
― Mr. Que, Monday, 21 May 2007 20:28 (nineteen years ago)
yes, that too
― kenan, Monday, 21 May 2007 20:34 (nineteen years ago)
Abbott will be back. I just know she will. She loves us TOO MUCH.
― kenan, Monday, 21 May 2007 20:38 (nineteen years ago)
Women who love TOO MUCH.
― Abbott, Monday, 21 May 2007 20:39 (nineteen years ago)
probably the term creepy is less often applied to women because it implies a certain "fear of" and men with crazy exes are either a) just more annoyed or inconvenienced than scared, or b) are still far less likely to actually admit it when they're afraid of something.
― Kim, Monday, 21 May 2007 20:47 (nineteen years ago)
i mean, i think that's the case because of environment despite the fact that it's usually assinine to put things in venus vs. mars terms.
― Kim, Monday, 21 May 2007 20:53 (nineteen years ago)
http://www.eyeballson.com/jennifer_lopez/enough.jpg
― Abbott, Monday, 21 May 2007 21:03 (nineteen years ago)
Either that or someone's broke into her house solely for the purpose of vandalising Wikipedia.
― Dom Passantino, Monday, 21 May 2007 21:49 (nineteen years ago)
from scanning it looks like nathalie is otm: most of this -- from scanning -- reminds me of momus and his concept of 'well-adjustedness'.
scarier than needy people: people who think lack of self-esteem or whatever is some kind of red-flag-oh-shit-avoid-THAT-person thing. emotional batemanism.
― That one guy that quit, Monday, 21 May 2007 21:59 (nineteen years ago)
batemanism = hott
― lex pretend, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:01 (nineteen years ago)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Image:Michael_bluth.jpg
― Dom Passantino, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:06 (nineteen years ago)
waht is batemanism?
― kenan, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:07 (nineteen years ago)
people who think lack of self-esteem or whatever is some kind of red-flag-oh-shit-avoid-THAT-person thing
That must be lonely. Lack of self-esteem seems pretty gosh darn epidemic.
― kenan, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:09 (nineteen years ago)
I guess depending on how MUCH lack of self-esteem you're willing to tolerate. But doesn't everyone have to at some point deal with "I'm shitty! I'm not worth a thing!" from their SO?
I actually can't handle that much of it. "Oh be quiet, you're wonderful. No mas."
― Abbott, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:12 (nineteen years ago)
how can i like a person if they dont like themselves?
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:13 (nineteen years ago)
and if they dont like themselves, theyre not going to respect me much for liking them
― 696, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:14 (nineteen years ago)
like i said, it's a matter of degrees. I have gone from honestly disliking myself in my 20's to now just having an occasional bad day.
― kenan, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:17 (nineteen years ago)
some people have normal self-esteem which necessarily involves a lack of it at times, but even when v low they recognise that this is true of everyone some people have cripplingly low self-esteem which is perfectly understandable given circumstances, and yr basically a cunt if you don't sympathise some people have "cripplingly low self-esteem" and like to revel in it, and shout it out to the world, and while these people probably also deserve sympathy i am not the one to give it to them
(all the above being adults, teenagers obv have weird self-esteem and no awareness of others, this is entirely normal)
― lex pretend, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:25 (nineteen years ago)
i must say i don't really understand how anyone can fundamentally hate themselves though. like, not really really hate themselves.
Lex, it's because they're not me. Poor things.
― kv_nol, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:28 (nineteen years ago)
i guess they're just not blessed
― lex pretend, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:30 (nineteen years ago)
OH TEE EMM.
god i have thought exactly like this for basically my adult life.
― CharlieNo4, Monday, 21 May 2007 22:45 (nineteen years ago)
it really is otm. When you hate yourself, you treat everybody like a turd. This never fails.
― kenan, Monday, 21 May 2007 23:20 (nineteen years ago)
"scarier than needy people: people who think lack of self-esteem or whatever is some kind of red-flag-oh-shit-avoid-THAT-person thing. emotional batemanism."
cio 2007
― Frogman Henry, Monday, 21 May 2007 23:32 (nineteen years ago)
Wait, wait, wait - Dom started this whole thread because some girl hacked his Wikipaedia entry?
That's not crazy or psycho, that's KARMIC FUCKING PAYBACK, DUDE!
BWAH HAH HAH HAH HAH HAH HAH HAH HAH
it could have been worse - she could have made a loving tribute site dedicated to you like, oh wait...
BWAH HHA HAH HAH HAH HAH HA, I haven't laughed so hard in ages. Thanks for the LOLs.
Anyway, back to the sensible stuff.
― Masonic Boom, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:19 (nineteen years ago)
actually there was an article in the daily mail about this yesterday. charlie brooker believes that passantino hacked his own page, when he was on a wikivandalising rampage, he was wikihacking so fast, he got ahead of himself. thats how his tribute page got off the ground as well
it wasnt until a couple of days later that he remembered he'd done it himself, and thats why he hasnt been back onto the thread
― 696, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:21 (nineteen years ago)
Is this always true, though?
Sometimes, for some people, it takes being loved by someone else to be able to accept the good things about yourself, through being to see yourself through someone else's eyes. "I'll be your mirror, reflect what you are, in case you don't know."
I mean, that was how it worked the pretty much only time I was ever in love - actually in love, mutual love and all that.
Then again, it didn't last. He was so controlling and clingy that he basically tried to control out everything that *was me* about myself. And then wondered why I didn't love myself any more after a couple of years of this.
So if you've got low self esteem, you're screwed either way. Low self esteem leads to more failed relationships which only drives your self esteem lower in a vicious circle.
― Masonic Boom, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:27 (nineteen years ago)
this is probably not going to end well.
― ^@^, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:29 (nineteen years ago)
im sure its not always true. nothing is ever always true
haha, the last few have liked themselves rather too much. not entirely sure they're very nice people really;)
― 696, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:33 (nineteen years ago)
fun though!
― 696, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:34 (nineteen years ago)
And you got to see some amazing pidgeons.
― Masonic Boom, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:34 (nineteen years ago)
No, she sent a threatening letter to my mother and committed several acts of using a false identity in order to attack me and some of my closest friends.
I'm sorry, I'm going too fast for you. A "boyfriend"/"girlfriend" is something that people with social skills sometimes develop, Kate. You know how you start up crush threads? Imagine if you were capable of speaking to the people you creep over, that may "lead" to a "relationship". Do you follow me?
― Dom Passantino, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:39 (nineteen years ago)
oh yea i forgot about that one
look, i'll be honest with you guys, i didn't really think there was anything special about that pidgeon. i think pidgeons are dirty pieces of shit. but the chances of seeing a lark or a swift on commercial rd are never really that great
― 696, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:40 (nineteen years ago)
but i looked and i tried to see the good in the pidgeon, and i really did, a little
then it did a shit on the ground
it went back to being a horrible pidgeon. but i thought about it some more, and i thought, when you think what idi amin did, a little birdshit on commercial rd isnt so bad
― 696, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:42 (nineteen years ago)
You guys are mental. Gareth OTM about ending up with the person you deserve: How do you explain people (men and women) being physically abused? What load of crap are you spewing when you say such a thing. People don't always have the personality and courage to escape an abusive relationship. One of the reasons is that they never knew anything else. So do they deserve physical or emotional abuse? No, not at all. Secondly you can't love a person who doesn't love her/himself? WTF is that for a weirdo mentality. You can love that person (again for various reasons). Some people like to take care of people (who have low self-esteeem). Look at the partners of recovered alcoholics: some can't handle that healthy person and run away.
― nathalie, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:43 (nineteen years ago)
People think of abuse as something that *suddenly* happens. No, it doesn't, it's a slow process in most cases.
Dom, you don't know the faintest thing about me, or my life.
I might have a *modicum* of sympathy for you, if you didn't constantly post the most offensively misogynistic crap on ILX. I don't use the word karmic payback lightly, but hey, you're the one who forgot to log out when anonymously posting that you frequently fantasise about punching young girls in the face.
In your case, you reap what you sow.
― Masonic Boom, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:45 (nineteen years ago)
it's not karmic payback. kharma can only be portioned out be the cosmos.
― blueski, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:48 (nineteen years ago)
im not really talking about inability to escape relationships, more about getting into them in the first place. and yes, bad things can happen gradually - as jessie points out upthread. there are of course cases like this, and once embroiled can be difficult to extricate. but, for most cases, people end up in similar relationships the whole time, why do you think that is?
the other thing about 'oh it wasnt obvious at beginning' was that friends, 9 times out of 10, see all the warning signs straightaway, even if you dont
― 696, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:51 (nineteen years ago)
Like I said, often because they don't know anything else. And secondly of course friends see this always (twenty twenty fucking hindsight) partially because they aren't the ones in LOVE. This is what you forget: it's not all abuse, the abused deeply loves that person in a fucked up way. When you fall in love, you are not thinking straight. We often do things we know aren't good for us but we do'em anyway.
― nathalie, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:54 (nineteen years ago)
but it's not hindsight if the friends are seeing it at the time and the person themselves is being naive/in denial/delusional for whatever reason.
― blueski, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 12:57 (nineteen years ago)
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=456502&in_page_id=1770&in_a_source=&ct=5
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:00 (nineteen years ago)
ugh why is the photo on that page so big?
― blueski, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:01 (nineteen years ago)
Gareth OTM about ending up with the person you deserve:
How do you explain people (men and women) being physically abused? What load of crap are you spewing when you say such a thing.
I'm sure that when Gareth used the word "deserve," he was not thinking of abuse. Of course nobody deserves abuse, that's why it's abuse. The power of words.
What I imagine he was getting at, and the part that I agree with, is that like personalities are attracted to like, and that weak, wrong, or "crazy" people often end up together. Likewise with strong, confident people.
― kenan, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:02 (nineteen years ago)
there's a lot of 'i can fix them' thinking going on too but probably with both personalities being 'strong' in some way (you can have a strong personality but still have low self-esteem)
― blueski, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:05 (nineteen years ago)
you can come on strong and hate yourself, believe me, i know. :)
― kenan, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:07 (nineteen years ago)
you might even argue that all loud/visible assertiveness/defiance stems from low self-esteem or self-doubt. the truly confident don't have to broadcast it and all that.
― blueski, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:10 (nineteen years ago)
oh, you might easily argue that.
― kenan, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:11 (nineteen years ago)
i have no experience of revenge acts by spurned lovers unlike many people but it can often make the revenge-taker look just as bad as the person they're attacking. depends what you do and how do you it i guess. wanting other people to know about it ie trying to humiliate the other person publicly suggests that the person seeking revenge is doing this because they themselves fear this more than anything else.
― blueski, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:13 (nineteen years ago)
interlude
http://newsimg.bbc.co.uk/media/images/42955000/jpg/_42955893_dewanshrunk300.jpg
― blueski, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:17 (nineteen years ago)
I think I prefer chilled-out, easy-going psychopaths, generally.
― Michael Philip Philip Philip philip Annoyman, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 13:29 (nineteen years ago)
yes and yes. and that's why i no longer hate myself. good can come of sadness, even.
― CharlieNo4, Tuesday, 22 May 2007 14:00 (nineteen years ago)
Good thread, especially liked Lex's "people in abusive relationships usually deserve it" schtick in the middle.
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:16 (eighteen years ago)
this is a real 'whatever happened to...?' thread
― blueski, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:24 (eighteen years ago)
my ex is neither crazy nor psychopathic, no fun for me ;_;
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:29 (eighteen years ago)
If only she could say the same about you, Louis............... JOKE!
― Tom D., Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:31 (eighteen years ago)
Just because you toss a guy off Louis doesn't make him your partner.
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:33 (eighteen years ago)
I have exactly one psychopath ex in my past. She has a blog, which has proven illuminating to read. I show up in two entries. Apparently dating me was a big mistake.
― mike a, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:34 (eighteen years ago)
Dom, that ball will forever hang in the air, about two yards out, with the goalkeeper lying on the ground unconscious. Why not score with a bit of style for once? Or will you forever be the Inzaghi of ILX?
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:37 (eighteen years ago)
What, offside?
― aldo, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:39 (eighteen years ago)
all the inzaghi hate,.....*sigh*
― darraghmac, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:40 (eighteen years ago)
darraghmac otm
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:41 (eighteen years ago)
I'm not saying it's ineffective, just a bit on the functional, predictable side. I see Dom as a potential Quagliarella figure. Perhaps with a bit of practice he can realise that ambition.
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:42 (eighteen years ago)
Dear god I am sick of the two of you.
― kv_nol, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:43 (eighteen years ago)
Jagger out
― That mong guy that's shit, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:43 (eighteen years ago)
_nol out
One out, all out
― Tom D., Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:44 (eighteen years ago)
ban kv_nol, bring back Superpippo
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:44 (eighteen years ago)
have a cheap pay as you go phone for girls' calls, and your regular one for mates.
don't go out with girls who are mates of mates.
girls at uni in another city is classic.
― max r, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:45 (eighteen years ago)
Shevchenko is Inzaghi's crazy psychopathic ex. More than ever, they need each other now.
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:46 (eighteen years ago)
http://www1.telltalestories.com/tachetastic/5th/swiss%20tony.jpg
maxr, today
― Noodle Vague, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:46 (eighteen years ago)
kv_nol, do you hate fun football?
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:48 (eighteen years ago)
http://www.raisport.rai.it/pub/static/88000/20051126MilanInzaghi1wp.jpg
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:48 (eighteen years ago)
jesus, the loading time, make it stop.
― darraghmac, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:49 (eighteen years ago)
All good things come to those who wait
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:50 (eighteen years ago)
^^^definitive max r post?
― DJ Mencap, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:50 (eighteen years ago)
say what you like about qagu qualg qaul that other guy, he never took up my bandwidth needlessly
― darraghmac, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:51 (eighteen years ago)
you've got to be a bit cold if you want to avoid psychos.
girls know this all to well.
― max r, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:54 (eighteen years ago)
too well
max r, get out of the refrigerator
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:55 (eighteen years ago)
http://www.billboard.com/bbcom/images/album_images/cov200/pop/cov200/drd400/d482/d48275430a5.jpg
^^^max r theme tune
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:55 (eighteen years ago)
c'mon, everybody's at it.
― max r, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:58 (eighteen years ago)
http://www.ilsecoloxix.it/sport/foto/2007/05/28/QQQQQQQQQQQQQQQ--U100640150404d9D-456x316.jpg
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:59 (eighteen years ago)
i'd ban the lot of you
― DG, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:00 (eighteen years ago)
^^^voice of reason
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:02 (eighteen years ago)
I bet he says that to all the girls.
― Noodle Vague, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:02 (eighteen years ago)
Hey baby, come and take a look at my banhammer
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:03 (eighteen years ago)
i'm the peter sutcliffe of ILX
― DG, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:03 (eighteen years ago)
the post that had to be hit
― blueski, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:04 (eighteen years ago)
Not just of ILX, I heard.
― Noodle Vague, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:04 (eighteen years ago)
When Sutcliffe was stripped of his clothing at the police station, he was discovered to be wearing a V-neck sweater under his trousers; the arms had been pulled over his legs, so that the V-neck exposed his groin; the elbows were padded to protect his knees as, presumably, he knelt over his victims' corpses. The sexual implications of this outfit were held to be obvious, but this fact was not communicated to the public until disclosure in a book by Michael Bilton, published in 2003, called Wicked Beyond Belief: The Hunt for the Yorkshire Ripper.
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:05 (eighteen years ago)
Superpippo > Peter Sutcliffe > my ex
kv_nol, do you hate football?
-- Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:48 (Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:48)
I wouldn't cross the street to say hello but I wouldn't go so far as to say I hate it. Tolerate it might be a better way of putting it.
― kv_nol, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:06 (eighteen years ago)
Do you tolerate Steve Staunton, though?
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:08 (eighteen years ago)
No. I can't understand why he is still manager.
― kv_nol, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:09 (eighteen years ago)
Nor can we. It's great! :D
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:11 (eighteen years ago)
hurrr hurrr! women, eh?
― max r, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:13 (eighteen years ago)
It is rather amusing if you're not involved. The language I've learned hearing people talking about him though... (xpost)
― kv_nol, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:13 (eighteen years ago)
i only had a cursory read of the first 70 posts on this thread but gareth and matt were OTM like innit.
― ken c, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:15 (eighteen years ago)
Yeah, well you could have Roy Keane instead, but he and the Irish FA have some sort of awkward mutual loathing, and worse, God's got a plan for him, and that plan only involves Sunderland FC...
I think Dean Kiely or Mark Kinsella are the answers, myself. Maybe both?
OK, Max R is a troll. For realz.
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:16 (eighteen years ago)
Sorry LJ, you're well beyond me re. Irish football.
― kv_nol, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:17 (eighteen years ago)
They weren't particularly sensible suggestions, to be honest. They're both experienced Ireland footballers of the recent past, and both have captained their clubs, but the only reason I mentioned them is that they're Charlton legends. Kinsella at least is a coach nowadays, so you never know!
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:19 (eighteen years ago)
(the alternative, of course, is Radio 5 'analyst' and occasional midfielder Matt Holland)
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:20 (eighteen years ago)
Okay stop now before I get all Tuomas and start asking silly questions that everyone else on this thread knows the answers to...
― kv_nol, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:21 (eighteen years ago)
where's John Aldridge these days?
― blueski, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:22 (eighteen years ago)
Apparently he won an Irish TV singing contest a few months back
― Dom Passantino, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:27 (eighteen years ago)
yeah he did, but he was sh1te.
ireland job- neil warnock/martin jol combo
― darraghmac, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:28 (eighteen years ago)
my favourite bit of the thread "A "boyfriend"/"girlfriend" is something that people with social skills sometimes develop"
so true and those who develop a bf/gf are to be congratulated. although sometimes you just get lucky, like nani put in an assist the other day.
― ken c, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:29 (eighteen years ago)
nani/rooney/tevez love-triangle just waiting to happen
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:31 (eighteen years ago)
thriller video screenshot, quick!
― darraghmac, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:31 (eighteen years ago)
which one is the psycho ex?
― ken c, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:32 (eighteen years ago)
my sister had a boyfriend who i thought was a really well adjusted, charming, funny guy. used to go out for drinks with even when we weren't hanging around with her. turned out he was a total nutter afterwards, saying he was gonna top himself and ringing her 50 times a day. so you never know, i never would have guessed.
― max r, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:33 (eighteen years ago)
xpost: auld slapper
― Just got offed, Thursday, 4 October 2007 14:34 (eighteen years ago)
-- max r, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:45 (1 week ago) Bookmark Link
Gonna miss this dude.
― Dom Passantino, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 08:44 (eighteen years ago)
max r is slinging rock now?
― That one guy that hit it and quit it, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 09:22 (eighteen years ago)
Turns out dude was fake.
― Noodle Vague, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 10:24 (eighteen years ago)
the smiths had some funky jams.
(there's a quote for the ban max r thread)
-- max r, T
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/1/10/Sly-stone-heard-you-missed-1976.jpg
― That one guy that hit it and quit it, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 10:49 (eighteen years ago)
Smiths should have covered "Strokin'", that's a funk jam right there.
― Dom Passantino, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 10:51 (eighteen years ago)
i had a gf once
― ken c, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 11:39 (eighteen years ago)
animated?
― estela, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 11:42 (eighteen years ago)
pretty excitable, maybe
― darraghmac, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 11:50 (eighteen years ago)
-- Dom Passantino, Tuesday, 16 October 2007
s'okay bud, any time you need any more serious gems of advice like this, just give me a shout.
― max r, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 12:04 (eighteen years ago)
http://www.theage.com.au/ffximage/2006/10/23/mills_mccartney_narrowweb__300x372,0.jpg
― DavidM, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 12:08 (eighteen years ago)
I don't he's so much crazy as a bit stoned most of the time.
― onimo, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 12:09 (eighteen years ago)
"s'okay bud"
― DJ Mencap, Tuesday, 16 October 2007 12:12 (eighteen years ago)
-- max r, Thursday, 4 October 2007 13:45 (2 months ago) Bookmark Link
http://pages.cs.wisc.edu/~pachu/images/note.jpg
― Dom Passantino, Wednesday, 2 January 2008 15:17 (eighteen years ago)
http://bp2.blogger.com/_d5zWFZsz6Hg/Rkn1RrRVyyI/AAAAAAAAAQ8/Ti1zKs-jUuA/s1600-h/Ariane.jpg
― Dom Passantino, Tuesday, 5 February 2008 13:10 (eighteen years ago)
http://i69.photobucket.com/albums/i76/mmmallory33/c4cf6146.jpg
― That one guy that hit it and quit it, Tuesday, 5 February 2008 13:43 (eighteen years ago)