"No, really, you shouldn't get me anything."

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People who don't make it at all easy for you to get Christmas gifts for them, dud or dud?

And they make it so faux-modest and guilt-inducing.

― Melissa W (Melissa W), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 23:20 (twenty-three years ago)

― dwh (dwh), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 23:22 (twenty-three years ago)

I hate people who do this and don't mean it. Because when I say it (PLEASE don't buy me a Christmas present, you WON'T get one in return) I really, really mean it.

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 23:55 (twenty-three years ago)

i say it and i fucking mean it. i do NOT do xmas. and every year, some fucking member of my family insists and sending me some sort of gift, and then my mum gets angry because i don't write a thank you letter. and it's like... i have MADE IT PLAIN that i do not participate in xmas. i won't have this mercenary blackmail. i don't have contact with my extended family BECAUSE I DO NOT WANT TO. do not send me fucking unsolicited, unwanted gifts and expect me to acknowledge them.

grrrrrrrr...

issues, as you can see.

don't even get me started on gift-giving between friends and aquaintances and random fucking co-workers

― kate, Thursday, 12 December 2002 00:07 (twenty-three years ago)

well... this is the only response I've ever gotten from the people i consider a friend. i've always said "well ok" and nobody exchanged any gifts.

― Honda (Honda), Thursday, 12 December 2002 00:10 (twenty-three years ago)

get them coal, it will be very valuable when all the fossil fuels run out.

― jel -- (jel), Thursday, 12 December 2002 09:43 (twenty-three years ago)

we have a zero tolerance policy at home - if you can't tell someone exactly what you want then you get nothing.

worse still, because i have a pile of things that it's easier for me to get in london than it is for the family to find in the backwater that is gloucestershire i end up buying all my presents myself. kinda takes the surprise out of things.

(on the other hand, it beats waking up on christmas and finding that they've bought the new cd by the wrong Bad Company, say)

koogs

― koogs, Thursday, 12 December 2002 11:03 (twenty-three years ago)

You guys are weird. I say, bring on the gifts!!!
I had no trouble at all coming up with a huge list for myself this year to distribute to family and bf. I like shopping, so buying for other people is fun too. I'm going shopping again tonight! Woo hooo!

My dad simply sends me a check so I can pick out my own presents, but I thing that's a great idea since he doesn't know my taste that well. ONe year he gave me this huge present and it turned out to be the biggest, ugliest throw pillow I'd ever seen. Anyway, I buy myself the gifts, I wrap them, I try to forget what's inside them...

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Thursday, 12 December 2002 13:31 (twenty-three years ago)

People who won't tell you their address so you can send them a card - Classic or Dud, eh, Melissa?

― Graham (graham), Thursday, 12 December 2002 14:30 (twenty-three years ago)

My dad always says we must'nt spend more than 10 pence or something. We once asked him what he wanted and thought for a while and said 'nail clippers'. Later he added 'a comb'

― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 12 December 2002 14:35 (twenty-three years ago)

n't

― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 12 December 2002 14:36 (twenty-three years ago)

lists are so so idiotic. "oh wow!! you chose #6!! i tort you'd go for #11" my rule: get me something i didn't know i wanted before. cos if i did know i'd buy it myself cos i don't need yr money i want yr gift. and if you can't be fucked to think about what i might like or don't know me well enough then be honest and don't get me anything you poxy FAKER

― bob zemko (bob), Thursday, 12 December 2002 14:40 (twenty-three years ago)

(uh actually i don't want yr money but i stil need it ha)

― bob zemko (bob), Thursday, 12 December 2002 14:41 (twenty-three years ago)

I tend to make a list with a couple things I want (usually CDs or books, which make disappointing packages) and then "something in a big box, don't care what it is as long as it's fun to unwrap". So as long as the wrapping's good it really shouldn't matter.

― Maria (Maria), Thursday, 12 December 2002 15:47 (twenty-three years ago)

Bob - Lists are NOT idiotic. But I only say that because I make them. Who wants a stupid present? Not me. But I make my lists plenty long so I will def be surprised as to what I end up with and lots of the items on said list are rather generic anyway (ie: candles, journals...). And my family's lists also always include a section on what they don't want. And I couldn't just buy myself everything I wanted because I'm not Senorita Moneybags. So, there!

― Sarah Johnson (coco), Thursday, 12 December 2002 16:24 (twenty-three years ago)

I always like it when Sarah forgets her name.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Thursday, 12 December 2002 18:27 (twenty-three years ago)

Sarah McLusky! Sarah McLusky! Sarah McLusky!

Ok, I've got it now.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Thursday, 12 December 2002 18:38 (twenty-three years ago)

christmas! time to collect what yr owed!

― bob zemko (bob), Thursday, 12 December 2002 18:39 (twenty-three years ago)

Lists are okay. I don't give a list to my sister and she always buys me wacky presents (like a metal detector, or a sledge) that I have to open and say "Interesting!" while thinking "But I've already got enough junk in my house, thanks".

But I give lists to my mum. I use them to distance myself from her. Like, she listens to Sting & Chris de Burgh & Robbie Williams and during Britpop times she, like everyone else, suddenly got hip to all that crap. It started to piss me off when she was asking me to tape Pulp records for her, like we were on the same wavelength or something. Every year since then my xmas lists has contained only CDs, the criteria for inclusion being, 1) my mum hasn't heard of the bands; 2) the titles should ideally be nasty; 3) the CDs should be difficult to find. It's like "I dare you to take a tape of this as well, you fucker". I am a juvenile moron.

I like people who follow bob's rule.

― Eyeball Kicks (Eyeball Kicks), Thursday, 12 December 2002 18:46 (twenty-three years ago)

Several years ago, my dad found out I had an Enya cd I liked. Ever since then, he's always brought up Enya with me (Do I have the latest album? What do I think of this song?) even though I can't stand her any more. But it's basically our only link musically and he knows music is important to me, so I tend to play along with it a bit, but not so much that he'd buy me one of her albums come xmastime.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Thursday, 12 December 2002 18:50 (twenty-three years ago)

I like the Amazon wish list, except we need a site for more generalised wish lists. It means that people who don't have great ideas for things to buy me can find things they know I'll like. Not everyone uses it, obviously, and that's fine too.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Thursday, 12 December 2002 19:44 (twenty-three years ago)

Melissa, you got my email right?

― Graham (graham), Friday, 13 December 2002 13:32 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm guilty of saying this, because I honestly can't think of anything I would like. When people put me on the the spot and ask me what I would like, I usually just forget everything. It's not done as a manipulative thing, I just get dippy and forgetful when it comes to that sort of thing.

― Nicole (Nicole), Friday, 13 December 2002 14:28 (twenty-three years ago)

i am buying one gift for an exchange-type thing between my step family. that is it. i will hopefully be buying/receiving no other gifts

― ron (ron), Friday, 13 December 2002 15:23 (twenty-three years ago)

BUY ME STUFF!

― Graham (graham), Saturday, 14 December 2002 17:29 (twenty-three years ago)

(Do you want a card or not Ms W?)

― Graham (graham), Monday, 16 December 2002 15:58 (twenty-three years ago)

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