NO MERCY

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Last night I came home, went into the kitchen, opened my cupboard to make a sandwich, and I noticed something yellow and fluffy at the back of the cupboard. It was something cut off a soft toy. I ran back to my room thinking it was Pikachu's, to discover I'd left my door unlocked all day. Pickachu was fine, but GASP, Bubbles was missing, adn realised it was one of her pigtails. A bit later I looked at my shelf in the fridge, and discovered two arms and a leg. I knew who it was and waited for him to come home. At first he denied it, which freaked me out a bit, but later on he said alright it was me.

I had a minor dispute with him, but this, this is horrible. I really loved my Bubbles and replacing her just won't be the same. Currently I want to set fire to his genitals as per Stella Does Tricks. Do you have any better ideas? I can't damage university property or annoy other flatmates. What do I do?

― Graham (graham), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:20 (twenty-three years ago)

Jeez, just move, Graham. No question about it. He doesn't like you, you don't like him, he's started destroying your posessions. If you don't go he'll get worse. One of my sister's flatmates years ago went psycho and slashed all the furniture and stuff, and believed he was perfectly justified for doing so. People aren't rational when they do things like this, so don't even think about trying to reason with him.

― Liz :x (Liz :x), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:23 (twenty-three years ago)

What an asshole. Find something of his and smash it up, then tape it to the fridge so he knows what the score is.

But really you shouldn't listen to me, I'm in a horrible mood and just want to destroy everything in my path.

― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:24 (twenty-three years ago)

Urrrghh, that really sucks :(

I don't really know what to suggest, I'd want compensation, and I'd want everyone in the house to know what an arse he is. I'd also like to know why he did it.

― jel -- (jel), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:26 (twenty-three years ago)

Well, I'd already damaged something of his and was refusing to pay for it.

― Graham (graham), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:29 (twenty-three years ago)

What had you damaged of his. Was it commensurate in value to a plush toy of a cartoon character?

― Pete (Pete), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:32 (twenty-three years ago)

In no way.

― Graham (graham), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:33 (twenty-three years ago)

Did you deliberately damage something of his, or was it an accident? And what was it?

― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:34 (twenty-three years ago)

I put a knife through a football another flatmate had kicked at me. I had no idea whose it was at the time.

― Graham (graham), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:40 (twenty-three years ago)

and you just happened to have a knife.

weirdo.

― RJG (RJG), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:42 (twenty-three years ago)

I was in the kitchen at the time.

― Graham (graham), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:44 (twenty-three years ago)

To be fair the football probably meant as much to yr flatmate as Bubbles did to you. It might be a good idea to just move on and focus on moving out.

― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:45 (twenty-three years ago)

yay graham!

― DG (D_To_The_G), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:46 (twenty-three years ago)

The most effective strategy is to make this person understand how this hurt your feelings: which is what underlies the desire to ruin something of his, but doing so won't accomplish that: this is the point the Greek tragedians are always making about revenge, that it's always oversufficient/insufficient. Ideally you'd be able to look him in the eye and say "this was something I really loved, you've really hurt me" -- but there's probably so much baggage in this whole thing that that's not likely to happen, especially since it's just human to say "I don't want to give him the pleasure of knowing he's gotten to me." Be that as it may, though, there is no problem that the hard work of communication can't eventually solve, unless the person in question is truly insane

― J0hn Darni3ll3 (J0hn Darni3ll3), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:48 (twenty-three years ago)

How can you say that Nicole?

― Graham (graham), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:49 (twenty-three years ago)

graham MOVE OUT! and be v careful about locking the door when you go out in future!

poor bubbles :(

― katie (katie), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:49 (twenty-three years ago)

I know it's really hurtful Graham, but I'm just saying that if you try retaliating at this point it will probably just escalate and you might have more of your things trashed.

― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 19 December 2002 14:51 (twenty-three years ago)

do not retaliate. it NEVER works.

tell him you were upset that he broke something of yours that was given to you by someone very special, who is now dead. tell him its ok though, you have no hard feelings, its just one of those things

(IT DOES NOT MATTER WHETHER YOU REALLY FEEL THIS. DO NOT WASTE YOUR REAL FEELINGS ON PEOPLE WHO DO NOT MATTER)

― gareth (gareth), Thursday, 19 December 2002 17:22 (twenty-three years ago)

if its that important to him that he has to be the big man, and win...then let him...escalation will lead to further incidents

― gareth (gareth), Thursday, 19 December 2002 17:23 (twenty-three years ago)

(And then pee on his toothbrush, obv.)

― mark p (Mark P), Thursday, 19 December 2002 18:32 (twenty-three years ago)

if the ball was kicked at you on purpose then cool for knifing it, serves the guy right...and footballs are not particularly loveable things so i doubt they had the same attachment to it as one would with the lovely Bubbles

the sickening thing was the limbs on the fridge shelf, taunting you basically - outrageous...if he felt like he had to have 'revenge' for the football then thats one thing but this does seem grossly imbalanced (unless you waved the knifed football in his face which i doubt you did)

alas i have no decent practical solution at the mo, but moving out does seem urgent and key as they say

― stevem (blueski), Thursday, 19 December 2002 18:33 (twenty-three years ago)

yeah, the whole point is...you dont want to go head to head with a guy like this...because you will lose

― gareth (gareth), Thursday, 19 December 2002 18:39 (twenty-three years ago)

Graham, what he did WAS wrong, but destroying anything of his will make you look bad. Why? No doubt this guy will be quick enough to report you. Move out. Uni is stressful enough, without living with a psychotic roommate.

Besides, if he starts off with Bubbles, what would he do next?

― Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Thursday, 19 December 2002 18:46 (twenty-three years ago)

dood footballs are expensive, what if he had score a brilliant goal with it?

― Chupa-Cabras (vicc13), Thursday, 19 December 2002 18:47 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm inclined to agree with the others who have said move out. Do Not Pass Go, Do Not Collect £200, just get out of there. I can't begin to imagine how horrible it must be to share accommodation with someone who behaves this way - you must be so miserable.

Can you sew Bubbles back together? Can she be saved?

― C J (C J), Thursday, 19 December 2002 19:38 (twenty-three years ago)

I've already had some words laft night, though Gareth's suggestion would be best. I've home for Christmas tomorrow morning, and probably won't be long back afterwards. Everything is being locked in my room.

― Graham (graham), Thursday, 19 December 2002 19:41 (twenty-three years ago)

I like footballs better than bubbles.

― Ally C (Ally C), Friday, 20 December 2002 00:48 (twenty-three years ago)

Years ago, years and years - some boys I knew got rid of a freeloading roommate (in my favour, mind) via "persuading" him to move out via small acts of sabotage. Most notable ones being: alarming amounts of bacon fat painstakingly inserted *inside* the roommate's jacket through a tiny rip in the lining, dishsoap in his ketchup bottle (so much of it regular shaking was required to prevent the re-appearance of green soap veins), "tripping around the corner" and spilling water onto his bed, and of course the always classic cleaning the toilet bowl with his bath towel.

Just in case Graham needs some bad ideas!

― Kim (Kim), Friday, 20 December 2002 06:12 (twenty-three years ago)

graham, you have my sympathy. i had a huge art project hanging up in my old apartment -- loads of gigantic black and white photographs that i'd spent ages developing in the darkroom and arranging just so. my best friend (he is still my best friend) got really angry 'n drunk one nite and tore down all the photos that reminded him of his ex gf, and ripped them up into little pieces

i can't replace a lot of that work bcz i don't have the negatives anymore

(i did set fire to his pokemon cuddletoy once and threw it off a 5th floor balcony but that was different honest plus pokemon didnt really catch fire (fkn synthetic material) and i felt bad so i ran downstairs and saved him and cleaned him up, he's fine now, just a little burnt around the edges)

― geeta (geeta), Friday, 20 December 2002 11:02 (twenty-three years ago)

Assertiveness lesson:

"When you do (x) it makes me feel (x) and that means that (x)"

For example, "When you laugh at me with your friends it makes me feel upset and that means that the atmosphere in the house is not good for anyone to live in". If he listens and understands (which he's more likely to if you keep calm and think rationally), you can work out how you're going to move on from this. Under no circumstances say "When you destroy my Bubbles it makes me feel like a psycho and that means that I will want to stab you".

You're both acting like toddlers. Time to grow up. Do as you would be done by etc.

― Madchen (Madchen), Friday, 20 December 2002 11:17 (twenty-three years ago)

heh I think the best solution is to just move out somehow, but do take any opportunities for breakage immediately before you vanish into the sunset, never to return...I have absolutely no faith in people being reasonable anymore, by the sound of things trying any sort of "when you do [x] it hurts me (etc)" will just end in disaster, it should work, but it won't...

― DG (D_To_The_G), Friday, 20 December 2002 11:37 (twenty-three years ago)

i have a stuffed cat called 'the kit', and if someone did anything like that to the kit, just to spite me, seriously, i'd piss in their face while they were asleep. then set fire to the bed. you don't fuck with other peoples' toys.

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 20 December 2002 11:43 (twenty-three years ago)

Cookie's right, he cannae kick bubbles around the park, they'll ae blow away or burst or summat.

― the pinefox, Friday, 20 December 2002 12:29 (twenty-three years ago)

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