Sadness, and being away from your S.O.

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What's the longest time you've ever been away from someone you loved? Have you ever had to sustain a relationship through just email?

In an hour, I'm saying goodbye to my boyfriend for a few months- he just found out last week that his ship is being sent out on an emergency deployment. I've spent the last 6 days helping him pack & trying not to think about this morning, but it's sinking in now. He'll be back in April, but that seems like years away right now. So: separation sucks. I knew this kind of thing could happen when I started dating him, but it's different in theory from in real life. :- (

― lyra (lyra), Thursday, 9 January 2003 17:26 (twenty-three years ago)

I've just started a long distance relationship, but one with someone who I think is very special. I get pangs all the time, but they're more than made up for by the strentgh of my feelings for her. It's scary that there'll be several months at the very least before we can be in the same town, but everything tells me it's worth it. And that makes me happiest of all.

― Mark C (Mark C), Thursday, 9 January 2003 17:39 (twenty-three years ago)

Deployment to elsewhere on the coast? I recall him being in the Coast Guard -- if he was being sent to the Gulf area, heaven forbid, then I don't blame you at all for being unsettled.

My own years-long history of long-distance relationships and separations is no help in terms of advice, I'm afraid. I will say that though my parents were often separated given my dad's Navy career, they made it work -- how, I'm not sure still, though recently I've been talking with them more about their own emotional history and background, and they agreed there was no magic formula beyond trust and commitment.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 9 January 2003 17:46 (twenty-three years ago)

My wife went to Venezuela yrs ago for 2 weeks and it sucked. I was miserable. We kept a journal for each other. Now, I like it when she goes away for a few days. keeps it fresh ya know. Although I was told today that I have to travel for work beginning in Feb and my first thought was ..."I'm going to miss my wife."

― Chris V. (Chris V), Thursday, 9 January 2003 17:49 (twenty-three years ago)

I'll be on tour for most of February -- how miserable I feel after a few days away from my wife is the reason why I toured so little in '98-'00. It sux0rs, being away from my wife. When we were still dating I was away for two months plus some days...never again.

― J0hn Darn13ll3 (J0hn Darn13ll3), Thursday, 9 January 2003 18:13 (twenty-three years ago)

You comin' through Colorado, J0hn?

Ask for Sadness and being away from S.O., I know this all too well. I get pangs of sadness, but even sadder--I get used to being alone. Right now I am super depressed because he left yesterday morning. Weep.

― Mandee, Thursday, 9 January 2003 18:36 (twenty-three years ago)

I get to see my wife tomorrow for the first time since Christmas Eve. JOY!

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 9 January 2003 18:40 (twenty-three years ago)

I haven't seen my best friend since September 2000. This makes me sad.

― rosemary (rosemary), Thursday, 9 January 2003 19:41 (twenty-three years ago)

I haven't seen a lot of my friends since early 2001.

I am in a "weekend only" relationship right now, and it is painful at times for me. I get really lonely, even though I should be out! in New York! having fun! ... uh, yeah.

― maura (maura), Thursday, 9 January 2003 19:51 (twenty-three years ago)

but your all gonna get some soon :-)

― brg30 (brg30), Thursday, 9 January 2003 20:08 (twenty-three years ago)

Hooray Dan! Nothing sweeter than coming home/having someone come home.

Mandee I won't make Colorado this time unless it suddenly relocates to Europe, which would be such a catastrophic even that it'd probably delay the tour indefinitely :-)

― J0hn Darn13ll3 (J0hn Darn13ll3), Thursday, 9 January 2003 20:26 (twenty-three years ago)

My wife went to Venezuela.
Caracas?
Yeah, she must have been absolutely barmy.

(with apologies to Poops McGee)

― Mark C (Mark C), Thursday, 9 January 2003 20:33 (twenty-three years ago)

ay?

― Chris V. (Chris V), Thursday, 9 January 2003 20:39 (twenty-three years ago)

oh, sorry. it was a long time ago. about 6 years ago.

― Chris V. (Chris V), Thursday, 9 January 2003 20:40 (twenty-three years ago)

Mandee I won't make Colorado this time unless it suddenly relocates to Europe, which would be such a catastrophic
Yeah, that would be sorta weird. I'd be sprichken zie deutsch. I almost drove to Iowa once to see you play, but then the weather turned sour. It was kind of sad because I had to return all my books on tape to the library.

― Mandee, Thursday, 9 January 2003 21:25 (twenty-three years ago)

i was away from my girl for almost a year. neither of us had email at the time. we wrote letters all the time and made mix tapes. i was working at a shit gas station so i called her on their dime. yeah, a year is a long time but i like being alone to an extent. i dunno, like ned said, there is no magic really, trust is the big thing.

― kephm, Thursday, 9 January 2003 22:13 (twenty-three years ago)

Lyra, I think there's a Seattle FAP thing going on this Friday with Jen from NYC. I think Ron invited you. Sooo, you're obviously more than welcome to join, and have us cheer you up.

― donut bitch (donut), Thursday, 9 January 2003 22:45 (twenty-three years ago)

I am hopefully FAPing with you all, if I can get my cold under control. :-)

He's not off to the mideast, thankfully- just Antartica. Colder, but a bit safer.

― lyra (lyra), Friday, 10 January 2003 00:40 (twenty-three years ago)

just Antartica. Colder, but a bit safer.

Never underestimate the guerrilla war skills of penguins.

(hee hee)

Man, I'm sorry Lyra for your temporary loss. April will swing very quickly, I bet.

― donut bitch (donut), Friday, 10 January 2003 00:46 (twenty-three years ago)

The dumb question I have to ask is -- what in the world does the Coast Guard do down in Antarctica? Fight the illegal ice trade?

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 10 January 2003 01:27 (twenty-three years ago)

I want to join the Coast Guard if that means I might get to go to Antartica. cool.

― That Girl (thatgirl), Friday, 10 January 2003 01:56 (twenty-three years ago)

Oh dear, I hadn't thought of guerilla penguins! And I hear that there are also lots of whales down there, too...

His ship is an ice breaker, so they're going down to help open a passage through the ice to McMurdo station (the NSF's base) in Antartica so that the resupply ships can reach it while it's summer down there.

― lyra (lyra), Friday, 10 January 2003 03:27 (twenty-three years ago)

the longest i've ever been away from my boyfriend is 6 months. i too am one of those "crazy" (apparently) people who are in a long distance relationship.

one of the things that helps us get through being apart is talking on the phone everyday, the distance doesn't seem that far somehow when you're on the phone.

good luck Lyra, and just keeping thinking about how great it will be when you see each other again!

also, Mark C, that was beautiful!

― sand.y, Friday, 10 January 2003 03:40 (twenty-three years ago)

DB: I think we're meeting up Saturday night, as I won't be arriving in Seattle until then. So Lyra, please do join us!

― Jen (nstop), Friday, 10 January 2003 05:11 (twenty-three years ago)

:'(

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 10 January 2003 10:47 (twenty-three years ago)

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