Leaving stuff in people's places so you have an excuse to go back.

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You know -- leaving in the morning and conveniently "forgetting" some personal effect so that they'll have to see you again when you come pick it up. Apparently it works in reverse, too: I asked someone else about this and she said she once slid something under her bed so a guy would have to come back for it (she would not reveal what the thing was).

Have you ever done this? Have you ever suspected that someone has done it to you?

― nabisco (nabisco), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 01:46 (twenty-three years ago)

i've never done this, but i know for a fact it's been done to me..

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 01:51 (twenty-three years ago)

oh yeah, been done to me lots.
girls are way more on the ball when it comes to this stuff

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 02:04 (twenty-three years ago)

People leave stuff at my place all the time. But I dont think they do it on purpose, cos I seem to have a small collection of guys tshirts.

*brag brag*

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 02:08 (twenty-three years ago)

hey Trayce NICE NAME GIRL! (if u R being a girl)

I just want to say that I totally approve of this question, I've meant to ask it before. I've never done this "on purpose" but then they say that eveything's on purpose somehow, even things like being late, so. I guess I have but I can't remember. Lame answer, sorry.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 02:13 (twenty-three years ago)

I left a smiths compilation CD and a mix CD and a vinyl copy of 'rumours' and a vinyl copy of the lovin' spoonful's greatest hits vol. II and a vinyl copy of some gershwin record and a vinyl copy of 'pretzel logic' and some other vinyls, maybe, and two power cables and a copy of 'crime and punishment' at someone's place and I still hope to see some of them again sometime. none of these were totally by purpose--I just couldn't manage to not leave them.

― RJG (RJG), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 02:15 (twenty-three years ago)

I know someone who does this habitually. I've still got a leather arm-band thing with metal snaps on in it. Betcha money she's forgotten about that though, I haven't seen her in 6 mos

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 02:21 (twenty-three years ago)

my friend Bek always leaves her sunglasses behind when she visits. I think I've even thrown a pair away because she would never remember to take them with her when she left.

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 02:40 (twenty-three years ago)

Tracer : yes IR a girl! :)

(I seem to have been questioned on this repeatedly here, which is very odd, as it never usually happens on other internerd thingors).

This thread has just reminded me I have left my Withnail and I video and my Black Books DVD at a friends house. BUGGER.

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 02:47 (twenty-three years ago)

i am SOMEONE!

― kirsten k (kirsten), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 03:13 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't know why I asked you that Trayce. Your name is so close to mine maybe if you were a guy I'd be like "there's can't be two Tonys" ((c)24hr party people) or something. No, I don't care. lurker Tracer guys feel free to come forward!

It seems like sort of a "girl thing" but I'm not sure I'm comfortable with the implications of that so I'd like to be wrong.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 03:55 (twenty-three years ago)

Er, some girl borrowed two books from me two weeks ago and won't bring it back. She could either be pulling the
manouevre Nabisco mentions or she could be stealing my books. HA--but she lost a button to her winter coat here, and I won't surrender it until I see my books! (It's like an endgame now.)

― Amateurist (amateurist), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 03:57 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm always leaving things places and just not bothering to get them, even if I already am going back to the place. In a month I lost an earring and a bracelet at the guy I'm seeings place, and I just don't think to like ask for them back, I know they are there, what do I care? He ain't takin' 'em anywhere.

I've never thought to do it on purpose.

― Ally (mlescaut), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 04:02 (twenty-three years ago)

I know they are there, what do I care? He ain't takin' 'em anywhere.

Ally: yeah, thats what I said when my ex went back to Canada wearing my fave studded wristband. Then he broke up with me, so the wristband won't be coming back to me :( But I have his collection of Life In Hell books. So HA!

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 04:06 (twenty-three years ago)

I watched my college boyfriend place a fountain pen quite conspiciously on my window sill the first night we got together. I said nothing.

― felicity (felicity), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 05:40 (twenty-three years ago)

I have accidentally left stuff at one persons' house, but I don't want to ask for it back, because they will assume I did it on purpose. I am living in the (slender) hope they don't know it's there.

― isadora (isadora), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 05:46 (twenty-three years ago)

(Sorry, Tracer, as I posted this I thought to myself: "This is going to sound like a Hand thread.")

― nabisco (nabisco), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 05:54 (twenty-three years ago)

Of course I've left stuff at guys' houses as an excuse to go back, what do you take me for? And, of course, annoyingly, I've left stuff by mistake at the houses of people I never ever wanted to see again - ARGH!

I thought guys did it on purpose, like they were marking their territory or something. Or worse, they treat you like a free laundry service. I had a BF who used to come home from tour and leave his pants and socks scattered about my room. Of course I'd collect them all and wash them and neatly fold them, and then the next time he came over, he'd feign surprise "Oh, clean pants, wow, thanks, think I'll pop these on." Grrrrrr. I was finding his pants stuffed places months after we broke up. Think I still have a pair somewhere.

― kate, Tuesday, 11 February 2003 08:58 (twenty-three years ago)

Hm, I found a shot glass under my bed the morning after the night I met one of my exes (there'd been a small party). I used taking it back to him as an excuse to see him again; kinda the reverse of the original scenario. On reflection it probably wasn't even his, ha!

― Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 09:39 (twenty-three years ago)

i have never done this to anyone, as far as i can remember. and no-one's ever done it to me - oh wait i remember, maybe in high school some one left their jersey at my place, and said "so i'll have an excuse to come back". which doesn't really count, because the lame manipulation factor isn't there. but no i've never done this, it seems a little pointless.

― di smith (lucylurex), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 09:59 (twenty-three years ago)

heh, people don't leave stuff at my house cos they know i'll keep it.

― g-kit (g-kit), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 11:27 (twenty-three years ago)

Yeah, this really works!

― George Costanza (Andrew Thames), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 11:38 (twenty-three years ago)

I tried it once about eight years ago and I'm still with that girl now. Top tactics.

― Lynskey (Lynskey), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 12:59 (twenty-three years ago)

haha a friend of mine called a girl up post-christmas party fling to tell her she left her necklace nehind... turns out it was from a cracker!!!

yoda sez: "how embarassing!"

― zemko (bob), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 13:02 (twenty-three years ago)

haha I have just realised that the last time a woman did this with me I was all "Oh that's okay, we can meet in town after work and I'll give it back to you". Hahah I am such an idiot.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 13:19 (twenty-three years ago)

Tracye, you prolly get asked coz in America they call guys Tracy. Dunno why, it's like how they call guys Jesse and Kerry and Cody and Kim and Jody and Stacey??!!???!! and girls Drew and Daryl and Jamie and stuff like that.

Re: leaving stuff. I did this once, on purpose. I left a belt. Then I decided I really didn't want an excuse to go back, so I no longer have the belt.

― toraneko (toraneko), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 13:43 (twenty-three years ago)

I thought guys did it on purpose, like they were marking their territory or something.

You are confusing leaving stuff in people's places with pissing on their walls.

I suppose it's ambiguous.

― N. (nickdastoor), Wednesday, 12 February 2003 00:20 (twenty-three years ago)

Apparently it works in reverse, too: I asked someone else about this and she said she once slid something under her bed so a guy would have to come back for it (she would not reveal what the thing was).

Was it his penis?

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 12 February 2003 00:22 (twenty-three years ago)

Yes, Dan, his name was John and apparently he later wrote a hit novelty song about the experience.

― nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 12 February 2003 00:26 (twenty-three years ago)

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