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Do you like to be flattered? Are you gd at flattering other ppl? When does flattery shade into creepiness? (Why does the word flattery seem so weird once you've typed it a few times?)

― Andrew L (Andrew L), Thursday, 6 March 2003 23:33 (twenty-three years ago)

...not as far as stalking.

― Colin Saunders (csaunders), Thursday, 6 March 2003 23:49 (twenty-three years ago)

I disagree and have seen first hand how Colin's flattery has taken (gotten) him further than stalking!

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 6 March 2003 23:54 (twenty-three years ago)

...laid.

I never believe any of it, really. I just said that you looked like a superhero on two other threads, Andrew, but it may not count as flattery.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 7 March 2003 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

A restraining order.

― Graham (graham), Friday, 7 March 2003 00:01 (twenty-three years ago)

have seen first hand

actually, not first hand.

oh wait there was that time when everyone saw... oh never mind.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Friday, 7 March 2003 00:17 (twenty-three years ago)

Williams flattered my essay in my admissions letter. I like Williams a lot right now (for many reasons but I think subconsciously that's one of them). Thus, flattery will get you people willing to pay tens of thousands of dollars.

I'm awful at flattering other people because I am paranoid about being creepy. It's creepy when it's constant and undeserved, but usually it's just nice.

― Maria (Maria), Friday, 7 March 2003 00:19 (twenty-three years ago)

I once flattered a girl who went to Williams. It got me a 5 year relationship and ultimately, heartbreak...

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Friday, 7 March 2003 00:26 (twenty-three years ago)

Do you like to be flattered?

It depends on what i did to deserve it.

Are you gd at flattering other ppl?

no.

''When does flattery shade into creepiness?''

when someone keeps doing it, but its never happened to me.

''(Why does the word flattery seem so weird once you've typed it a few times?)''

I haven't typed that word once so far in thsi reply so I don't know.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 7 March 2003 11:25 (twenty-three years ago)

I am a complete sucker for flattery... all it takes is a couple of nice comments here and there and I'm willing to do your bidding FOREVER like a faithful dog that gets fed regularly.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 7 March 2003 11:35 (twenty-three years ago)

isn't there a big difference between flattery and compliments?

flattery = when someone want something from you, or has an ulterior motive. big dud.

compliment = spontaneous and sincere appreciation for something you've done, or something about you. these are nice.

― jeanne picot (jeanne picot), Friday, 7 March 2003 11:43 (twenty-three years ago)

I dispute that definition of flattery.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 7 March 2003 11:45 (twenty-three years ago)

A compliment is an expression of praise, admiration, or congratulation whereas flattery is a compliment, which is excessively and often insincerely delivered.

― Lara (Lara), Friday, 7 March 2003 11:59 (twenty-three years ago)

So when people say "I'm very flattered", what they actually mean is "I'm very complimented"...

I think this is one of those occurances when the common useage of the word eclipses its original and precise meaning.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 7 March 2003 12:10 (twenty-three years ago)

although 'flattered' does still make sense because

im flattered= "i'm not worthy of your praise... ie you overestimate me" but meaning same as complimented, ie, quite happy to take the praise, and feel nice about it

im complimented="i am worthy of your praise, i feel nie you noticed" except not as egostistical as that sounds

the reason flattered is used rather than complimented, at least in the UK, is down to self-deprecation at least to some extent

― gareth (gareth), Friday, 7 March 2003 12:16 (twenty-three years ago)

And ignorance, of course.

― Lara (Lara), Friday, 7 March 2003 12:16 (twenty-three years ago)

OTOH, philately will get you nowhere. (groan)

― C J (C J), Friday, 7 March 2003 16:48 (twenty-three years ago)

It could get you somewhere where few men have gone before.

― Lara (Lara), Friday, 7 March 2003 17:01 (twenty-three years ago)

I flatter people a lot at work in the sense that I try to find good things in them and then point them out. I want to get along as well as possible with these people I spend so much time with. I don't really know what they could do for me. But I guess I want something from then in the sense that I desire friendship...?

― Sarah MCLUsky (coco), Friday, 7 March 2003 19:13 (twenty-three years ago)

My brother went to Williams. Flattering him will get you nowhere, tho (he's married).

Flattery will get you everywhere with me, tho.

― hstencil, Friday, 7 March 2003 19:14 (twenty-three years ago)

With me too. Bring on the flattery!

― Sarah McLUsky (coco), Friday, 7 March 2003 19:16 (twenty-three years ago)

Sarah McLUsky is my new favorite poster.

― hstencil, Friday, 7 March 2003 19:17 (twenty-three years ago)

I can't believe HSTENCIL said something nice to me. I mean, HSTENCIL!!! OMG!

― Sarah MCLUsky (coco), Friday, 7 March 2003 19:18 (twenty-three years ago)

Why does the word flattery seem so weird once you've typed it a few times?

It seems to switch it's meaning from positive interpersonal interaction to something that vaguely sounds like it might have something to do with pancakes.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Friday, 7 March 2003 19:19 (twenty-three years ago)

Actually, flattery won't get me anywhere because Sarah McLUsky has a boyfriend.

(note to self: on "I Blame Hstencil" thread, add "I'm sorry" apologies for every girl I've flirted with and/or creeped out on ILX.)

― hstencil, Friday, 7 March 2003 19:19 (twenty-three years ago)

The real question is: will flattery get you flatwear?

― hstencil, Friday, 7 March 2003 19:21 (twenty-three years ago)

What's all this talk about me having a boyfriend? Huh? I'm so confused. *

All apologies should be directed here.

* This is definitely a lie.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Friday, 7 March 2003 19:24 (twenty-three years ago)

...flatter?

― Colin Saunders (csaunders), Friday, 7 March 2003 19:34 (twenty-three years ago)

Person A: "I like you."
Person B: "Wow. I'm FLATTERED, but..."

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 7 March 2003 21:47 (twenty-three years ago)

i am usually desperate to be flatterd by my basic evil usually prevents it or makes it suspect

― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 7 March 2003 21:51 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm apt to be quietly pleased about flattery but refuse to accept it -- in fact, I usually go to immense lengths to rebut anything positive anyone says about me.

But the secret is that I probably like it. (Except for anything that involves implying I have bravery or courage. That's really not true.)

― ChristineSH (chrissie1068), Friday, 7 March 2003 22:46 (twenty-three years ago)

"flattering" someone sounds like you're being insincere. if i say nice things about people, its cos i mean it.

― di smith (lucylurex), Saturday, 8 March 2003 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I love being flattered and I like flattering back a lot too. but I'm a moody bastard so I don't always take it the right way, darn. also, I tend to be suspicious of folks who do flatter me because I don't quite believe I deserve it, at least sometimes. but I've learned to be more open about that with time.

― M Matos (M Matos), Saturday, 8 March 2003 01:04 (twenty-three years ago)

six years pass...

people who flatter seem to inevitably prove themselves to be unlikeable.

― \∫Öζ/.... argh oh noes! (ken c), Monday, 30 March 2009 16:43 (seventeen years ago)

Is this evidence-based?

― Orin Boyd (jel --), Monday, 30 March 2009 16:44 (seventeen years ago)

You mean like...the DEVIL, master of flattery?

― i'm shy (Abbott), Monday, 30 March 2009 16:46 (seventeen years ago)

I mean I've probably never flattered anyone ever, so this is good news re: flatterers.

― Orin Boyd (jel --), Monday, 30 March 2009 16:48 (seventeen years ago)

lol @ "A restraining order."

― BADGES DON'T GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO WALTZ OFF WITH A BABY (HI DERE), Monday, 30 March 2009 16:49 (seventeen years ago)

funny cos it's true

― \∫Öζ/.... argh oh noes! (ken c), Monday, 30 March 2009 16:51 (seventeen years ago)

Q: Why would Tony Slattery make a lousy cab driver?
A: Because Slattery gets you nowhere (ba dum pish!)

― snoball, Monday, 30 March 2009 17:08 (seventeen years ago)

If you pile heaps of praise on me for some trait I know to be average, you'll just earn my scorn.

If you pile heaps of praise on me for some trait where I truly excel, then can it justly be called flattery?

In order to successfully flatter me you would need to discover where I overestimate myself. That's the sweet spot.

― Aimless, Monday, 30 March 2009 17:46 (seventeen years ago)

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