bad luck

Stuff like THAT, I call bad luck. Meeting an attention seeking cunt who *everyone* warns me is going to use me and throw me away, but I throw myself at him anyway, and guess what? he uses me and throws me away... I can hardly call *that* bad luck. That's something I did to myself. Bad luck is stuff that happens to you without any of your control - the stuff above, basically.

Sorry, that was a rant and I didn't mean it to be. I'm really super happy today! Things are looking up and I like my life right now! I've got good friends and that's what's important!

I REFUSE to continue being trodden down by L's fucking family or fucking useless hospital managers or ANYONE ELSE.

i think, when it comes to bad luck, it comes one after the other because if you have misfortune a couple of things together, it affects self-confidence and frame of mind, and you make it more likely to bring further bad things on yourself. i knew this at the time of course, but knowing it and doing something about it are not the same thing. i think thats why people can find themselves in downward spirals, because one bad thing then affects the next thing and you're not as positive and affective so that doesnt necessarily pan out, then that can have negative affect.

the same works for runs of good luck also, as has happened since last summer. one great thing can open out other great things which lead to more etc

My. *good thoughts for the best* If it was driving you nuts, you very much did the right thing.

I am not religious & would not describe myself as particularly 'spiritual' or anything. I generally like to think that atoms randomly smashing into each other, over time, evolving into shapes and patterns which give way to other shapes and patterns, etc. is an awesome enough thing to be enthralled with w/o requiring any further, magical account of the universe & its ways. So, while the idea of karma is one I think would great for a cosmological system of checks & balances, I can't think that its real. And that is the rub b/c I have bad karma. or something..

Thusfar in life, I've maintained a reasonable enough state of affairs & been of sound health (so I can't think I am on god's worst shitlist or anything) & I really think self-pity in general is NAGL so I'm not angling for that. But here's the thing: I have the shittiest luck w/ day to day bullshit to the extent that plenty of those who know me irl daily life think I'm legit cursed. Often, such mischance occurs in such series' of coincidences & ironies that I have to admit (sometimes at the time, even) that it can get pretty comical.

I intend, now, to use this thread to keep a record of such events as they occur.

01. I bought (and will be buying for some time) a pretty decent car earlier this year, an 04 Camry w/ low mileage. In fact, it is the first car I've owned that I've deemed valuable enough to constitute a full insurance package (which, of course, still has just enough of a deductible not to do me any good for the random shitty luck things that happen). It arrived to my life in immaculate condition, which I am mindful enough to make a decent go of maintaining. So I'm pretty on point when it comes to secure parking, oil changes, not discarding opened ketchup packets onto the backseat floor, etc.

But here's what happened tonight: It was after dark & I was looking for a place I was not familiar with. Realizing I missed my turn, I went to turn around in the parking lot of some nondescript suburban apartment building. Granted, I was doing this quick and rote job of this, but still.. the parking lot was dark and empty & I reversed into what appeared to be an empty space, only to ram my rear bumper into a lamppost (a lamppost which, it should be noted, was both unlit & painted black).

Half of the lower rear panel (which serves as a bumper, but also connects to the rear fenders) popped out of the brackets which fasten it to the body, so it was dragging, but also miraculously unscathed! (the malleability which caused it to detach also saved it from denting/scratching). So basically, I just needed to get it rebracketed - a simple an relatively cheap fix, all told. I'll have to sport my dirtbag style w/ that shit roped to the trunk for the time being, but it could have been a lot worse.

An hour or so later, on my way home, I decided to stop at my corner bar & parked curbside on a well-lit sidestreet immediately off the main strip. When I came back to the car, it was obvious that another driver had smashed into the OTHER side of the same rear panel, the side not supported by twine & shoelaces. It is pretty fucked now & I'll probably have to replace the whole panel.

hoo boy

in the last seven days... six staples in my head, canceled trip overseas I was really looking forward to taking, car accident (completely unrelated to the six staples in my head), and debit card skimmed

feeling pretty cursed right now tbh and severely depressed

I'm really sorry to hear about all that, jon. just one of those things would probably be enough to do it, let alone all of them happening in a week :(

sending my best wishes.

thanks Neaderthal, appreciate it

Thankfully no physical injuries or car accidents right now, but hoo boy just one bad luck development after another lately.

Never used to believe it, but starting to wonder if I'm cursed or something.

No one cares about the details (or me posting in general, tbqh, but I hope for some catharsis by shouting into the void), but short version is that I had three things on the books for 2024, various short trips and events that I've been looking forward to. In the last three days, two of them have fallen through completely and the third is heading that way in a hurry.

Good reminder to myself to never plan for fun things in the future, it's not worth it.

The frustrating part is that none of these things have fallen apart based on anything I've done or changed, all because of various other people changing plans and/or backing out.

xp not true that nobody cares about you not posting.

Sorry to hear about this, shit sucks and I hope the pendulum swings back the other way for you very soon.

Yeah it sucks where you have to rely on the vagaries of others' whims & action

Can you still plan a little trip without those hosers?

I might plan something, but right now my motivation is just kind of shot. And considering that one of the trips was supposed to be gathering with friends I haven't seen since before the pandemic, kinda not the point.

I just feel so fucking stupid for looking forward to things. Lesson certainly seems to be "don't plan on fun things in the first place and you won't be disappointed when they fall through".

Nothing like starting the day off with the outside door literally falling off the hinges as you rush out the door, running late for getting the kid to school, then have your pants split right down the middle when you crouch down to try and fix the screws in the hinge.

I hope you’re able to move the piano and deliver those fancy cakes today.

I'm just assuming at some point two guys will be carrying a very large, clean pane of glass in front of my path.

oof