― Frederick J., Tuesday, 26 October 2004 10:41 (twenty-one years ago)
― Markelby (Mark C), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 10:45 (twenty-one years ago)
(whatever happened to hamish?!)
xpost Markleby: why not both?
― You've Got to Pick Up Every Stitch (tracerhand), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 10:47 (twenty-one years ago)
― Andrew Blood Thames (Andrew Thames), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 10:49 (twenty-one years ago)
― papa november (papa november), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 10:49 (twenty-one years ago)
― Markelby (Mark C), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 10:52 (twenty-one years ago)
― Frederck J., Tuesday, 26 October 2004 11:13 (twenty-one years ago)
(Sorry to go on about this, but it does fit the subject)
I saw Claire Grogan at a swimming pool (before I knew it was her). She was nice, and if I was single, maybe. But on a straight comparison with Dawn, (if I was single, etc) I'd still fancy Dawn more.
― mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 11:17 (twenty-one years ago)
― n/a (Nick A.), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 13:52 (twenty-one years ago)
― n/a (Nick A.), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 13:53 (twenty-one years ago)
― mean, Tuesday, 26 October 2004 13:56 (twenty-one years ago)
I don't think so. There's the very VERY good chance that your fantasy would be incredibly different from the reality. You risk obliterating that precious fantasy.
― Je4nne ƒury (Jeanne Fury), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 13:59 (twenty-one years ago)
― Je4nne ƒury (Jeanne Fury), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 14:02 (twenty-one years ago)
― the bellefox, Tuesday, 26 October 2004 14:07 (twenty-one years ago)
I didn't particularly connect them. They were just two examples of sexual fantasy, one that might relate to real life desire more than the other. Why do we (sometimes) fantasise about things we don't really want? Why are we turned on by the idea of something we wouldn't actually want to do? That was the sort of question that interested me.
― Frederick J., Tuesday, 26 October 2004 14:18 (twenty-one years ago)
― the bellefox, Tuesday, 26 October 2004 14:27 (twenty-one years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 16:19 (twenty-one years ago)
― nabisco (nabisco), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 16:59 (twenty-one years ago)
I mean doesn't everyone experience a situation where they may be sexually attracted to somebody, perhaps even only in fantasyland, and there is no way that something can happen, and you want to keep it as a matter of fiction. Surely that's half the point of fantasies?
I have to say I don't regularly have sexual fantasies about people I actually care for.
― Ronan (Ronan), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 17:39 (twenty-one years ago)
You say that as if you disapprove.
― Michael White (Hereward), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 17:41 (twenty-one years ago)
And sexual fantasies can have little or nothing to do with actual things you'd like to do -- they're ideas that turn you on, rather than actions that turn you on. Sometimes they happily converge, sometimes you're glad they don't!
― Casuistry (Chris P), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 17:44 (twenty-one years ago)
― nabisco (nabisco), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 17:49 (twenty-one years ago)
― Ronan (Ronan), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 18:06 (twenty-one years ago)
― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 18:08 (twenty-one years ago)
― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 18:10 (twenty-one years ago)
― Matos W.K. (M Matos), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 18:18 (twenty-one years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 18:20 (twenty-one years ago)
― nabisco (nabisco), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 18:22 (twenty-one years ago)
xpost: I think Martin has had other penises, actually. But is there something you'd like to share?
― Casuistry (Chris P), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 18:23 (twenty-one years ago)
― nabisco (nabisco), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 18:28 (twenty-one years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 20:02 (twenty-one years ago)
― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 20:12 (twenty-one years ago)
I mean, not that you'd know from perusing Japanese porn but there is.
― Allyzay Science Explosion (allyzay), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 22:35 (twenty-one years ago)
whether fantasies abt violent sex are psychologically unhealthy is another matter.
― motown modown (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 26 October 2004 22:41 (twenty-one years ago)
― Hurting (Hurting), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 01:58 (twenty-one years ago)
― do the sublimation, Wednesday, 27 October 2004 02:03 (twenty-one years ago)
― Hurting (Hurting), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 02:08 (twenty-one years ago)
― the apex of nadirs (Rock Hardy), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 02:13 (twenty-one years ago)
― Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 03:22 (twenty-one years ago)
Again, I fail to see how dominance/submission equates to coercion/rape scenarios.
― Allyzay Science Explosion (allyzay), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 03:26 (twenty-one years ago)
Well, except it's (often?) about giving up power to show that you trust someone -- not dominance, so much as showing vulnerability and feeling secure in it.
― Casuistry (Chris P), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 03:57 (twenty-one years ago)
I think we do all have fantasies about things we don't want to do. It's a bit like the difference between seeing a movie and real life. When we see a movie, we're happy to suspend our disbelief and temporarily put ourselves in an interesting fanatasy situation that we can escape from an hour or two later. In the space of a fantasy, we can take a scenario and forget about all its downsides and just concentrate on the exciting, erotic aspects.
― Frederick J., Wednesday, 27 October 2004 07:13 (twenty-one years ago)
― Markelby (Mark C), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 08:03 (twenty-one years ago)
― caitlin (caitlin), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 10:25 (twenty-one years ago)
― do the sublimation, Wednesday, 27 October 2004 12:24 (twenty-one years ago)
(oh, and candles are another thing I like too; but that's incidental)
― caitlin (caitlin), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 19:00 (twenty-one years ago)
― nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 19:19 (twenty-one years ago)
And Trayce, I've had quite a few of my fantasies come true, and enjoyed every one of them - I'm not trying to say that therefore anyone else will too, just that both outcomes are perfectly possible. I guess the initial categories, whether you really want the fantasy to happen, are often the main point here.
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 27 October 2004 19:37 (twenty-one years ago)
1) All people who enjoy spanking/being spanked are fantasing about being beaten by their partners2) All men who enjoy anal sex with women are latent homosexuals3) All men who c on their girlfriend's t's are secretly imagining MANY men c'ing on their girlfriends t's
ETC. I don't think any rational person would give weight to any of those three arguments so why would anyone give weight to the idea that bondage scenarios are inseparably connected to rape fantasies? Causistry is OTM.
― Allyzay Science Explosion (allyzay), Thursday, 28 October 2004 03:31 (twenty-one years ago)
― TOMBOT, Thursday, 28 October 2004 03:43 (twenty-one years ago)
The idea of a "rape fantasy" is surely that someone will force you to do something you don't want to do. The idea behind bondage is, I think for many people, that someone will do something nice to you, something you want them to do, even though you are powerless to make them do it, and you're in a position where they could do something much worse to you. This is why the stereotype of the aggressive person who wants to be tied up in bed makes sense, in a pop psychology sense: They want to be reassured that the other person cares about them even when they're not in a position to be aggressive or to "make" someone care about them. If you're loved when you're vulnerable, then you're really loved.
(I mean, similarly, it was a lesbian who taught me, a long long time ago, that the idea behind fisting wasn't an act of power and penetration, it was an act of being so comfortable with someone and trusting them so much that you could relax to the point where it was possible.)
Now, there are some people who do seem to have actual rape fantasies. (And I don't really have any insight into why.) But those are different from people who are into bondage.
― Casuistry (Chris P), Thursday, 28 October 2004 03:47 (twenty-one years ago)
― Casuistry (Chris P), Thursday, 28 October 2004 03:49 (twenty-one years ago)
...to penetrate them powerfully?
― Andrew Blood Thames (Andrew Thames), Thursday, 28 October 2004 03:52 (twenty-one years ago)
― Casuistry (Chris P), Thursday, 28 October 2004 04:19 (twenty-one years ago)
― Allyzay Science Explosion (allyzay), Thursday, 28 October 2004 04:21 (twenty-one years ago)
― Casuistry (Chris P), Thursday, 28 October 2004 05:29 (twenty-one years ago)
― Andrew Blood Thames (Andrew Thames), Thursday, 28 October 2004 05:41 (twenty-one years ago)
― lolita corpus (lolitacorpus), Thursday, 28 October 2004 05:50 (twenty-one years ago)
― Casuistry (Chris P), Thursday, 28 October 2004 05:51 (twenty-one years ago)
― Remy (x Jeremy), Thursday, 28 October 2004 05:51 (twenty-one years ago)
(on the other hand, I *have* just been shouted at by a cow-orker for being "too arrogant". where's the best "i've just been shouted at by an idiot cow-orker" thread?)
― caitlin (caitlin), Thursday, 28 October 2004 10:34 (twenty-one years ago)
― Frederick J., Thursday, 28 October 2004 10:46 (twenty-one years ago)
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 28 October 2004 10:53 (twenty-one years ago)
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 28 October 2004 10:55 (twenty-one years ago)
― caitlin (caitlin), Thursday, 28 October 2004 10:56 (twenty-one years ago)
haha that's cos one of the hand is tied up.
there are probably some fantasies which are more related to real life than others, and it's probably not possible to categorise any form of sexual fantasy to whether it's related to real life desires.. everyone's different right?
i don't think i have any kind of lingering fantasies, they just come and go, to so speak.
― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 28 October 2004 12:21 (twenty-one years ago)
― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 28 October 2004 13:01 (twenty-one years ago)
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 28 October 2004 13:05 (twenty-one years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 28 October 2004 13:17 (twenty-one years ago)
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 28 October 2004 13:19 (twenty-one years ago)
― Markelby (Mark C), Thursday, 28 October 2004 13:21 (twenty-one years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 28 October 2004 13:22 (twenty-one years ago)
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 28 October 2004 13:23 (twenty-one years ago)
― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Thursday, 28 October 2004 13:28 (twenty-one years ago)
― Markelby (Mark C), Thursday, 28 October 2004 15:43 (twenty-one years ago)
― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Thursday, 28 October 2004 15:45 (twenty-one years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 28 October 2004 15:49 (twenty-one years ago)
― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Thursday, 28 October 2004 15:50 (twenty-one years ago)
― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 28 October 2004 15:52 (twenty-one years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 28 October 2004 15:53 (twenty-one years ago)
― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 28 October 2004 15:54 (twenty-one years ago)
― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Thursday, 28 October 2004 15:57 (twenty-one years ago)
Enjoying an active practice as a Magickal Sex Criminal can make you look up to seventy-five years younger, it is being claimed by a team of researchers from Feral Light University under the auspices of the WORLD SIGILIZERS CARTEL.
― LATTER DAY SATANIST, Friday, 29 October 2004 03:38 (twenty-one years ago)
I just read this as "how come roxy gets all the nice titties"
I think I need to gohave a drink or something.
― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 29 October 2004 03:49 (twenty-one years ago)
― the surface noise (slight return) (electricsound), Friday, 29 October 2004 05:09 (twenty-one years ago)
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Friday, 29 October 2004 07:20 (twenty-one years ago)
*retitles autobiog*
― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Friday, 29 October 2004 12:57 (twenty-one years ago)
in November I'd like to have andwhat in the booth with me so I can shit down his throat as I pull the lever for the Socialist Workers Party.
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― That one guy that hit it and quit it, Tuesday, 5 February 2008 20:21 (eighteen years ago)
Scatolist Workers Party
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http://ilx.p3r.net/ILX/ThreadSelectedControllerServlet?boardid=40&threadid=18708
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