Wish me luck; today i'm going to finally make a move on this girl

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who i've wanted to make a move on for a couple of years.

we're close friends, which is why i've held back.

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Saturday, 27 November 2004 12:10 (twenty-one years ago)

whats the most disasterous way i could do this?

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Saturday, 27 November 2004 12:12 (twenty-one years ago)

surprise nudity!

― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Saturday, 27 November 2004 12:13 (twenty-one years ago)

girls like chocolate.

i could sellotape bars of chocolate to myself and then make a move.

i mean, what kind of girl could say no to a 5 foot 8 bar of chocolate that talks?

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Saturday, 27 November 2004 12:14 (twenty-one years ago)

I knew this would be you!

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Saturday, 27 November 2004 12:23 (twenty-one years ago)

Build her an egg nog waterfall.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Saturday, 27 November 2004 12:24 (twenty-one years ago)

oh you knew it would be me did you

you KNEW?

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Saturday, 27 November 2004 12:27 (twenty-one years ago)

would it work if...

i make a move and if she rejects me then i go "oh haha, i was only joking anyway"?

does that work?

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Saturday, 27 November 2004 12:28 (twenty-one years ago)

No.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Saturday, 27 November 2004 12:57 (twenty-one years ago)

oh haha i was only joking anyway.

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Saturday, 27 November 2004 13:01 (twenty-one years ago)

Liar. You FUCKING SCUMBAG!

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Saturday, 27 November 2004 13:03 (twenty-one years ago)

i've liked you for quite sometime

w4nn4 make a baby?

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Saturday, 27 November 2004 13:08 (twenty-one years ago)

just give her a kiss, let her do the talking.

― teeny (teeny), Saturday, 27 November 2004 14:56 (twenty-one years ago)

who i've wanted to make a move on for a couple of years.

we're close friends, which is why i've held back.

Don't do it.

It will end in tears. Yours.

Trust me.

― Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Saturday, 27 November 2004 15:15 (twenty-one years ago)

Trust me, it CAN work.

― stevie nixed (stevie nixed), Saturday, 27 November 2004 15:24 (twenty-one years ago)

Trust me, sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't.

― Matt (Matt), Saturday, 27 November 2004 15:25 (twenty-one years ago)

No no - TRUST ME! IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!!!!!!!!

― dog latin (dog latin), Saturday, 27 November 2004 15:48 (twenty-one years ago)

ah, the famous 'long game', how sweet it isn't

― *@*.* (gareth), Saturday, 27 November 2004 15:52 (twenty-one years ago)

I like Teeny's answer.

― miccio (miccio), Saturday, 27 November 2004 15:53 (twenty-one years ago)

heres a motivational mp3.

― :| (....), Saturday, 27 November 2004 16:13 (twenty-one years ago)

Good luck!

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 27 November 2004 17:42 (twenty-one years ago)

We await the results eagerly...

― The Lex (The Lex), Saturday, 27 November 2004 17:48 (twenty-one years ago)

Keep us updated, willya?

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Saturday, 27 November 2004 17:50 (twenty-one years ago)

ok so i bottled it.

but im going back over this evening so i might still do it.

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Saturday, 27 November 2004 18:27 (twenty-one years ago)

Are you dressed as chocolate bar?

― Orbit (Orbit), Saturday, 27 November 2004 18:33 (twenty-one years ago)

Are you dressed in egg nog?

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Saturday, 27 November 2004 18:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Try this approach:

'We've been the closest of friends for x years now. We've always had this deep understanding between us.. have you ever wondered, why haven't we gone further...? Because I have cheese fry - in my pants. And it's hot. So very hot'.

― the music mole (colin s barrow), Saturday, 27 November 2004 18:37 (twenty-one years ago)

hahaha

its glandular

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Saturday, 27 November 2004 18:38 (twenty-one years ago)

HAW

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Saturday, 27 November 2004 20:00 (twenty-one years ago)

you'll never do it, hari ashurst

― caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Saturday, 27 November 2004 20:25 (twenty-one years ago)

he's doing it NOW!

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Saturday, 27 November 2004 20:27 (twenty-one years ago)

oh man, I don't have a good feeling about this at all. Dude's gonna get bushwicked.

― 57 7th (calstars), Saturday, 27 November 2004 20:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Whatever you do, don't wait until the moment when you see her beginning to move in on one of your friends, and then drunkenly do the "I love you!" thing in an attempt to derail it. In a room full of people you know. It doesn't work.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Saturday, 27 November 2004 20:36 (twenty-one years ago)

xpost Have you seen Hari? He's really cute.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Saturday, 27 November 2004 20:45 (twenty-one years ago)

No, do that! It'll be great, and in hindsight you'll see you've given yourself a hilarious story to tell at parties and other social events (and that is the greatest gift of all, my friend). That is, when you've cultivated a new group of friends and started a new life.

― Suedey (John Cei Douglas), Saturday, 27 November 2004 20:47 (twenty-one years ago)

What Matt said, I mean.

― Suedey (John Cei Douglas), Saturday, 27 November 2004 20:48 (twenty-one years ago)

With great shame i report i wussed out...again.

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Sunday, 28 November 2004 00:05 (twenty-one years ago)

OH HARI

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 28 November 2004 00:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Home Alone: C/D?

― ke[hm, Sunday, 28 November 2004 00:08 (twenty-one years ago)

so $girl has a boyfriend

― Does John Coltrane Dream of a Merry-go-round? (ex machina), Sunday, 28 November 2004 00:08 (twenty-one years ago)

deadite alright [7:10 PM]: she was almost lying on me and then said "i dont know where to put my arm, argh" at which point i should have taken her arm
deadite alright [7:11 PM]: instead i just suggested she bite it off.
deadite alright [7:11 PM]: doh

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 28 November 2004 00:08 (twenty-one years ago)

i dont think i can post here anymore after that, roxy.

― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Sunday, 28 November 2004 00:12 (twenty-one years ago)

BUT I LIKE MERZBOW

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 28 November 2004 00:13 (twenty-one years ago)

i was right! try again, though.

― caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Sunday, 28 November 2004 00:22 (twenty-one years ago)

As a last ditch effort, rig up something that lets you cry tears of real egg nog if she rejects you (and tell her it's glandular).

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 28 November 2004 21:17 (twenty-one years ago)

Good idea, she'll be licking his face in no time.

― MindInRewind (Barry Bruner), Sunday, 28 November 2004 21:21 (twenty-one years ago)

disapointing thread! I read through it all in hopes of a good ending.

― A Nairn (moretap), Monday, 29 November 2004 03:54 (twenty-one years ago)

GROW ONE BALL

― teeny (teeny), Monday, 29 November 2004 04:33 (twenty-one years ago)

with my own recent girl whining i feel bad for not reading this earlier.

good luck? i don't know what to tell you (see my first sentence)

― g--ff (gcannon), Monday, 29 November 2004 04:40 (twenty-one years ago)

haw teeny

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 29 November 2004 05:13 (twenty-one years ago)

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Oh deaR!

― Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Sunday, 31 July 2005 20:36 (twenty years ago)

she said was that shes no good at talking about feelings and stuff
I think that after six months in a relationship, people either start talking about "feelings and stuff" or start breaking up.
and hadn't really thought about sex.
She is lying to you about this.

Uh, you don't know her, so how can you tell if she's lying? You can assume but never know. For all we know, she might have some issues with touching, sex or closeness. Or be asexual. You just don't know. Be patient but if you're not willing to wait, then you have to address this issue. I don't mean (especially) breaking up, but at least talk about it. Not with us, but with her.

― nathalie sans denouement (stevie nixed), Sunday, 31 July 2005 20:39 (twenty years ago)

Hmm, thinking back to last century (when I was 19), I can remember a similar relationship, with someone I found "fascinating," but who wouldn't reveal much of herself (yeah, both metaphorically and literally). It ended, cos I think we *all* have an in-built idea about the natural progression of things (like being able to talk / share feelings / be naked in front of each other / be a dick and have to apologize in front of each other etc). The thing about that age is that some people just *aren't and may be never be* good at being close. And that's just them. And once you figure out that much of your transferral of mystery / future-bliss won't happen, then it's time to go. Anyway, it sounds like you're getting more frustrated, and that the best thing to do is try something (tell her the backstory! dance naked! pull some kind of stunt!) to see what heppens.

― paulhw (paulhw), Sunday, 31 July 2005 20:52 (twenty years ago)

Well after being frustrated I told her that sharing feelings wasn't exactly a hobbie of mine but i do it anyway because it's important. And I told her that the relationship isn't going to work if she can't do the same. She said she would try. I mean we do talk about these things sometimes but anytime we do she goes very quiet and seems very intimidated.

I'm gonna leave it at that for the moment and see if she does make an effort and if it improves things and go from there. This girl is really special to me otherwise I would have given up a couple of months ago.

― Hari A$hur$t (Toaster), Sunday, 31 July 2005 22:18 (twenty years ago)

i dunno just how much he was kidding (maybe i'd leave out the 'do it to other girls bit' in addition to the hooker beating) but i was trying to formulate some advice similar to lecoq's actually - next time you have some opportunity to be physical with her, maybe in a social setting, do something bold and surprising, but not in a way thats aggressive or embarrassing to her, and see if your newfound bodily freedom doesnt inspire *any* kind of new or different reaction in her

― jermaine (jnoble), Sunday, 31 July 2005 22:57 (twenty years ago)

really tho, i aint the guy to be giving advice like this, so take it from whence it comes

― jermaine (jnoble), Sunday, 31 July 2005 22:58 (twenty years ago)

Heh, It's all pretty sensible sounding.

― Hari A$hur$t (Toaster), Sunday, 31 July 2005 23:01 (twenty years ago)

four months pass...

threads over a year old

― Hairy Asshurt (Toaster), Thursday, 15 December 2005 18:09 (twenty years ago)

So how's it going, Hairy Asshurt? :-)

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Thursday, 15 December 2005 18:14 (twenty years ago)

it's going ok

stressful time of year but 11 months of togetherness is cool. Sex too.

― Hairy Asshurt (Toaster), Thursday, 15 December 2005 18:55 (twenty years ago)

― Roxymuzak, Mrs. Carbohydrate (roxymuzak), Thursday, 15 December 2005 18:58 (twenty years ago)

― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Thursday, 15 December 2005 18:58 (twenty years ago)

So I guess you finally DID make a move on this girl.

― Roxymuzak, Mrs. Carbohydrate (roxymuzak), Thursday, 15 December 2005 19:07 (twenty years ago)

...and it only took a whole year for this guy to get laid. Be proud of yourselves, ILM'ers.

― Jo$eph, Thursday, 15 December 2005 19:23 (twenty years ago)

this is the sweetest thread ive ever seen. i just want to post to be a part of it.

― JD from CDepot, Thursday, 15 December 2005 19:30 (twenty years ago)

hey joseph!

― sunny successor (katharine), Thursday, 15 December 2005 19:43 (twenty years ago)

Heh, I now have a warm and fuzzy feeling inside. :-)

― Cracks (Crackity), Thursday, 15 December 2005 20:07 (twenty years ago)

So he's having sex with you then?

― StanM (StanM), Thursday, 15 December 2005 21:35 (twenty years ago)

Is this the first time someone's started a random lust thread and actually pulled? (Well, apart from Strongo and the teenage lesbians).

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 15 December 2005 21:40 (twenty years ago)

Strongo and the teenage lesbians

This sounds like the first book in a series.

― Dan (Or A Band) Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 15 December 2005 21:42 (twenty years ago)

Matt I remind you of KNEE IN BALLS COFFEESHOP GIRL.

― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Thursday, 15 December 2005 21:48 (twenty years ago)

strongo will not be penning any advice columns

― u saved me (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 15 December 2005 22:32 (twenty years ago)

o i loved that thread so much

― jim p. irrelevant (electricsound), Thursday, 15 December 2005 22:46 (twenty years ago)

it was a bleak time

― u saved me (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 15 December 2005 22:56 (twenty years ago)

2004, man

― u saved me (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 15 December 2005 22:56 (twenty years ago)

picking up this waitress

― kit brash (kit brash), Saturday, 17 December 2005 01:07 (twenty years ago)

Well, apart from Strongo and the teenage lesbians).

wha?

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Saturday, 17 December 2005 01:13 (twenty years ago)

one month passes...

So tonight i asked her out.

and she said yes.

she's my girlfriend - HAPPY ENDING

-- Hari A$hur$t (lindseyloha...), January 22nd, 2005.

― Hairy Asshurt (Toaster), Monday, 23 January 2006 17:18 (twenty years ago)

Happy anniversary :)

― Archel (Archel), Monday, 23 January 2006 17:24 (twenty years ago)

thanks :)

I'm back at uni now so i didn't actually see her, but before I left for here earlier in january i took her out to a V. expensive resteraunt and got her a rose and all that stuff, which i think she liked.

― Hairy Asshurt (Toaster), Monday, 23 January 2006 17:26 (twenty years ago)

you two are so cute.

one year passes...

If anybody still cares

I'm breaking up with this girl tommorow :(

Currently torturing myself with this thread.

― H-ari A-shurst, Friday, 9 March 2007 19:16 (nineteen years ago)

― Curt1s Stephens, Friday, 9 March 2007 19:24 (nineteen years ago)

I hate sad endings. :(

But stop torturing yourself with this thread; it's not going to help anything.

― Sara R-C, Friday, 9 March 2007 19:47 (nineteen years ago)

wish i had a bitch i wanted to make a move on

― and what, Friday, 9 March 2007 19:56 (nineteen years ago)

so sad

― lfam, Friday, 9 March 2007 20:03 (nineteen years ago)

why Hari?

― g®▲Ðұ, Friday, 9 March 2007 20:18 (nineteen years ago)

I dunno, it kinda feels like we're more like friends now. We've drifted lately. And I think that it's clear that we're not going to be together forever. We've had a great two years, but I think it's a a good time to end things.

I'm still mighty sad though.

― H-ari A-shurst, Friday, 9 March 2007 20:29 (nineteen years ago)

re-reading this thread would kill me if i were in your shoes. i had a vv similar relationship at age nineteen!

― g®▲Ðұ, Friday, 9 March 2007 21:51 (nineteen years ago)

Aw :-( Breaking up is so rough, even if you're the one doing the breaking.

― ENBB, Friday, 9 March 2007 21:54 (nineteen years ago)

Aw Hari :( I'd been wondering where you were at, I'm sorry to hear things have ended for you with her.

― Trayce, Friday, 9 March 2007 21:59 (nineteen years ago)

Currently torturing myself with this thread.

Hi dere my life last summer

― JW, Friday, 9 March 2007 22:01 (nineteen years ago)

Ok yeah, I think I'll stay out of here for a bit.

Good to see some old timers though. I plan to post here a bit more now :)

― H-ari A-shurst, Friday, 9 March 2007 23:37 (nineteen years ago)

Are you going to join a nu-rave band? :D

― JW, Friday, 9 March 2007 23:40 (nineteen years ago)

come back and let us know how the breakup goes.

― g®▲Ðұ, Friday, 9 March 2007 23:41 (nineteen years ago)

oof, good luck dude.

― ian, Saturday, 10 March 2007 05:19 (nineteen years ago)

It's not bad per se. If you know it's doomed, then break up. Hard at first, but it gets easier. Good luck!

― nathalie, Saturday, 10 March 2007 07:28 (nineteen years ago)

sorry man, thats sad.

― titchyschneiderMk2, Saturday, 10 March 2007 11:00 (nineteen years ago)

it's nice to see you again, hari, but are you just going to hang out with us until you meet another girl and then ditch us again? because i don't think we can't handle that, we are just learning to laugh and trust again.

― estela, Saturday, 10 March 2007 11:15 (nineteen years ago)

I empathise as I am also going through some bad stuff like this at the moment...though not so clearcut, hope it's all ok for you Hari.

― Ronan, Saturday, 10 March 2007 12:54 (nineteen years ago)

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