where have you met the majority of your partners?

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clubs?
pubs?
bars?
libraries?
ice cream vans?
brothels?
strip clubs?
message boards?
chat rooms?
ILX?

― bleuh, Monday, 17 January 2005 23:23 (twenty-one years ago)

I've only dated one person outside of the school environment, and I met her through an acquaintance of mine who went to law school with her; he brought her around to various social gatherings I attended.

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 17 January 2005 23:31 (twenty-one years ago)

Private parties.

― Autumn Almanac (Autumn Almanac), Monday, 17 January 2005 23:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Some of mine were penfriends. Some, I met online (yeah yeah shut up). Current guy I met at a nightclub/bar I used to hang out at (but at the time I was with someone else).

A large percentage of my boys have been long distance things. This might explain a lot.

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 17 January 2005 23:38 (twenty-one years ago)

depends on what you mean by 'partners'

― mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 00:10 (twenty-one years ago)

ive only dated two guys. one i met at the bar he tended, and the other one i met at a toy store

― phil-two (phil-two), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 00:12 (twenty-one years ago)

"mutual friends"

― cathy berberian (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 00:16 (twenty-one years ago)

public restrooms

― latebloomer (latebloomer), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 00:47 (twenty-one years ago)

at the pub

― gem (trisk), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 00:55 (twenty-one years ago)

At private parties and through friends.

― Andrew (enneff), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 00:57 (twenty-one years ago)

Bathr-- hey, I knew latebloomer looked familiar!

― Casuistry (Chris P), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 01:01 (twenty-one years ago)

mainyl through friends, although sometimes at clubs..

― the surface noise (slight return) (electricsound), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 01:15 (twenty-one years ago)

One of my partners I met in law school. Another one came from a rival firm. The third partner's father was one of the founders.

― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 01:25 (twenty-one years ago)

school.

― teeny (teeny), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 01:31 (twenty-one years ago)

Let me see... everyone i've ever gone out with:

at a teeny indie night (just seeing each other)
through friends/school (4 weeks)
at a house party (2 days)
as a friend (5 weeks)
as a friend (3 days)
in a bar at uni (1 night)
randomly crashing a first year flat at uni (2 months)
through friends/clubs (2 or 3 months)
clubbing (well, more of a snog and stuff)
eyeing each other up in a pub and then snogging on new year's (just over a year)
through friends (ongoing since october)

― dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 01:34 (twenty-one years ago)

internet mentalism / being a groupie

― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 02:12 (twenty-one years ago)

oh yeh - forgot about okcupid.

― dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 02:14 (twenty-one years ago)

apartheid protests
pro-Palestine protests
animal rights protests
monster-truck rallies

― milozauckerman (miloaukerman), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 02:17 (twenty-one years ago)

while i working as a cashier in the grocers
school
party
while he was working at a bookstore
irc haha
at a club
i think that about covers it

― Holly (an appletross), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 02:21 (twenty-one years ago)

i almost met a partner on ilx just now but the bitch wouldn't pull her weight so i had to give her the boot

― John (jdahlem), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 02:22 (twenty-one years ago)

i guess my buttereating didn't help much either

o, o well, another night alone :' (

― John (jdahlem), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 02:25 (twenty-one years ago)

You're never alone with internet porn, John.

― milozauckerman (miloaukerman), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 02:34 (twenty-one years ago)

i think you need a "more" between never and alone up there..

― the surface noise (slight return) (electricsound), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 02:39 (twenty-one years ago)

HOT BABES ON THE INTERNET!

― MY FAVOURITE LIGHTER IS CHEESEBURGER (trigonalmayhem), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 03:00 (twenty-one years ago)

once, on the dance floor. stuff dreams are made of!

― ai lien (kold_krush), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 04:23 (twenty-one years ago)

Mostly at bars/clubs (ie i successfully "pulled" them and then saw them at least once after that). But most entertaining stories would be the fellow I picked up at a peace march and the one who I collected after a show (groupie style).

Was this thread supposed to provide you with tips on how to meet people or just for the sake of random (or not so random) surveying?

― mouse (mouse), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 04:40 (twenty-one years ago)

It's kind of misleading, because although I've met partners mostly at gigs or clubs, usually they've been friends of friends, so it's not as random as it sounds. (This is actual partners, not groupies or that despicable practise of pulling the support bands.)

I had to watch in horror a few weeks ago as The Spy recounted a story that we met "through the interweb" which is a dirty damnable lie, as I met his *friends* through the interweb, but met him dancing at a nightclub. Which sounds far less tawdry indeed.

― Masonic Boom-Boom (kate), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 11:24 (twenty-one years ago)

a) via the smash hits penpal column
b) partner already known; on the rebound
c) via my blog

― Marcello Carlin, Tuesday, 18 January 2005 11:26 (twenty-one years ago)

duration of relationships in order:
a) 16 years
b) 3 months
c) 6 months

― Marcello Carlin, Tuesday, 18 January 2005 11:27 (twenty-one years ago)

Various short lived romances during my teens/early twenties = met at parties, mostly.

I met The Bloke at Uni. Been together ever since (I am now old, i.e. 37). Aww.

― C J (C J), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 11:31 (twenty-one years ago)

not to pry (well ok, TO pry), how does someone meet their partner through a blog? feel free to ignore my query if its P&C.

― ppp, Tuesday, 18 January 2005 11:36 (twenty-one years ago)

mostly clubs and pubs, sometimes in work. The longest relationship I had (6 months) was a girl I met in the office. Club and pub meetings tend to be rather messy and unresolved for me, second dates are always awkward.

― Ste (Fuzzy), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 11:37 (twenty-one years ago)

i met my husband at Ten Days Off festival. :-)

― stevie nixed (stevie nixed), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 11:37 (twenty-one years ago)

(x post x2)

well, you know, people do email me from time to time about what i write in my blog. but the whole "relationship" was a ghastly mistake. not a recommended course of action.

― Marcello Carlin, Tuesday, 18 January 2005 11:46 (twenty-one years ago)

At school (days), at university (weeks / months), via the internet (days / hours), in the pub (3 years).

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 13:05 (twenty-one years ago)

Drama group (about a month)
Mutual friends (three-four months)
School (six months)
Club (one month)
Mutual friends (one month)
Someone I interviewed (oh the shame, about two months)
University bar job (three months)
Work (six months of hell)
Work (three months)
Mutual friends (about two weeks)
ILx (18 months)
Mutual friends (current)

― Anna (Anna), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 13:12 (twenty-one years ago)

School
Reading Festival (not recommended)
The Basement (late lamented indie dive in Brighton)
University halls
Parties at university
Through friends/internet mentalism

― Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 13:56 (twenty-one years ago)

For the longer relationships I've had:

Through friends, drinking outside. We were actually cuffed together by an mutual friend, and so it began.

Through this sort of a Sunday club (not a "club" as in "nightclub", but a club where people get together and do all sorts of fun things) we had. This was my longest relationship, it took weeks of timid flirting until we were willing to admit we like each other.

Through a friend, she was her old childhood pal who moved to Helsinki.

Through friends.

As for one-night stands, those were (I think) exclusively through private parties. For dating that didn't lead into anything, school has been an important factor, for example I've met two girls through feminist studies classes (that's *not* why I go there though).

I don't think I've ever dated anyone whom I'd first met in a pub or a club.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 14:14 (twenty-one years ago)

The Sunday Club sounds like a great idea, not for meeting chiXxors, but to regularly do "cool stuff" with friends. I should start one.

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 14:17 (twenty-one years ago)

"Cool stuff" = foiling international smuggling rings with just your wits, your four friends and a dog.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 14:18 (twenty-one years ago)

HOW'D YOU KNOW?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 14:21 (twenty-one years ago)

Its what every photo you ever post reminds me of? ;)

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 14:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Either that or foiling the dastardly schemes of on-the-run criminals masquerading as scary ghosts in big houses.

(I'm sorry for this thread derail, I really am)

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 14:23 (twenty-one years ago)

Matt, I'd ask you to be in my Sunday Club but I fear geography prevents us.

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 14:24 (twenty-one years ago)

Obviously Tuomas too, but geography REALLY prevents that.

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 14:36 (twenty-one years ago)

We used to have a Sunday Club, but was mainly for the purposes of drinking vodka and held in a bar, so I think it was more like a nightclub but just taking place on Sunday afternoons. Hrmmm. Charlie No Four and I keep talking about reviving it, but so far, all talk, no action.

― Masonic Boom-Boom (kate), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 14:51 (twenty-one years ago)

jim and i were talking about having a sunday club that involved watching musicals...but it hasn't happened yet.

― colette (a2lette), Tuesday, 18 January 2005 16:45 (twenty-one years ago)

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