Is it wrong: I DON'T CARE ABOUT MY SWEETHEART?

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From an intreenet questionalizer such as this (recognize me yet)? I wanna get outta here... I gotta get.. .OUT OF HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Marriage or Suicide?
Get Married, you bum. 3 17.65%
Kill youself, you bum. 4 23.53%
Perhaps there is another solution, you bum. I will clarify my thoughts below. 10 58.82%

But those people are stupid.

See my lonely life unfold. I see it every day. I see my lonely mind explode.

BLOWN UP IN MY FACE!!!!!!!!

After 5 years, it seems the screws are being turned on me to propose to my live-in girlfriend. Especially since her younger sister has dated a guy for only 3 years and he has just given her a bit fat $12,000 ring-- which he bought from a friend at just-above-cost, so the ring is actually closer to a $35-40,000 ring. Suffice to say, if I get a ring, it will be less. AND murder may be involved.

Now, while some things about marriage appeal to me, such as the ability to say simply "the wife," by way of explaining my situation in life, knowing that at least the intention of commitment is there from someone who intends to stand by you, there are plenty of things that don't appeal to me, such as kids, the pressure to not be a miserable failure, her family's expectations regarding our marriage and, perhaps most of all, the inability to have sex with another woman.

Now, I'm in that place people find themselves in: a great, willing life partner who I don't want to lose... but, I don't necessarily want to commit the rest of my life to either, necessarily. Who knows what could happen down the line?

So, what should I do?

See my lonely life unfold. I see it everyday. See my only mind explode. Since I've gone away....

I still prefer suicide.

Let me hear your hatred...

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:15 (twenty-one years ago)

uh.. . what are you asking here? If she wants marriage and you don't then you should be honest with her. And be prepared if she wants to end the relationship. That's only fair to both of you.

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:24 (twenty-one years ago)

The question seems to be: I CARE MORE ABOUT ME THAN HER, is that a relationship to build a lifelong love upon?

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:27 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah um, no.

― luna (luna.c), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:28 (twenty-one years ago)

break up with her until you realize how good you had it.

― teeny (teeny), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:30 (twenty-one years ago)

But... really think about it: I CARE MORE ABOUT MYSELF THAN HER: so why wouldn't I want to snag her while I can?

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:30 (twenty-one years ago)

Hey?

Is it just me or are you not making much sense? Maybe I'm tired.

― Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:32 (twenty-one years ago)

Because it's not fair to her, she'll realize it in a few years and dump your sorry ass and you'll be alone again, you selfish prick.

For starters.

― luna (luna.c), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:33 (twenty-one years ago)

Haha luna OTM.

― Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:33 (twenty-one years ago)

No, because I'm an excellent liar! See my predicament?

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Unless she is spectacularly stupid, she'll know.

― luna (luna.c), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:36 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah, guys totally reek of it when they're in something they dont give a shit about, tbh.

― Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:37 (twenty-one years ago)

And it's true, sometimes it can take chicks awhile to catch on, but generally they do. And when they do, watch out.

― luna (luna.c), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:38 (twenty-one years ago)

Basically I'm saying if you don't want to marry her, don't marry her, but don't lie and say you do.

― luna (luna.c), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:38 (twenty-one years ago)

Well... maybe she's stupid... it's going on 6 years now... I do love her... but when I think about things it seems that three dots seem to come out of me...

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:39 (twenty-one years ago)

In other words, I feel different ways about things and even I don't know how I feel about things and words are difficult even for me when I feel they shouldn't be because BLACK JUJU is even undesirable for me... but I still feel confused.

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:41 (twenty-one years ago)

Marriage is confusing business sometimes.

― luna (luna.c), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:42 (twenty-one years ago)

especially when three dots are involved!

Have you ever seen that 70's show? I hate it, but I have heard OVER AND OVER AGAIN that "you are Hyde, dude" which always makes me think of Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde, but that's not the circumstance going on with That 70's Show... Hyde's a good sort of sarcastic prick and when I really think about it, I'm very much like him so my friends have some reason to suggest it: I had no family upbringing and I guess I became very jaded without realizing it, so when people want my assfull of love, I look at them like they are retarded, needy fuckaroos.

It's a very youthful thought-processs, but what is the "next step" in logical everyday normality?

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:49 (twenty-one years ago)

hmm a favorite band of mine has a song whose chorus goes "You must be a loser, gotta be a loser, to love a loser like me."

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:55 (twenty-one years ago)

F U C K Y O U

is that enough to get some feedback? Take no offense, but fuck you. Know what I mean?

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:56 (twenty-one years ago)

hmmm a favorite band of mine has a song whose chorus goes "SUN ARISE, come every mornin' BRINGING BACK THE WARMTH TO THE GROUND!"

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Thursday, 12 May 2005 23:58 (twenty-one years ago)

what an odd thread.

― shine headlights on me (electricsound), Friday, 13 May 2005 00:00 (twenty-one years ago)

I love people who ask for advice and then rag on the people that offer any.

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 13 May 2005 00:05 (twenty-one years ago)

xxpost, no I don't since one of your statements above made me think of that line. Sounded like you were suggesting you have a problem giving love since you are unused to receiving it? Not an uncommon problem.

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Friday, 13 May 2005 00:06 (twenty-one years ago)

I like people, too.

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Friday, 13 May 2005 00:06 (twenty-one years ago)

Think: Alice Cooper and "Hyde" from that 70's show... apparently (unfortunately) that's me.... (and the people who've told me are right: it is me, as much as I wish it wasn't).

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Friday, 13 May 2005 00:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Sorry about the "fuck you" post... it wasn't personal at all!

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Friday, 13 May 2005 00:12 (twenty-one years ago)

I dunno... I just did a ton of Tarot divinations... I've always had bad results with the Tarot regarding the numinous greater reality insights in the past and this doesn't seem to be any exception. I tend to just read the Tarot and then go on with life -- I mean, I don't freak out and start acting all differently based on a Tarot spread. So, if my past Tarot experience has been any indication, it seems a karmic rebalance will occur from the eventual dissolution of our union as part of a learning experience for me of a great mystical truth (and possibly her). Things generally look bad with us together and pretty great with us apart, particularly for ME. Well, I'll see. Generally Tarot insights reveal themselves to be true after inaction and indecision on my part... but I definitely won't be asking for her hand in marriage based on what I just saw.

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Friday, 13 May 2005 00:15 (twenty-one years ago)

g3ddy l33 holds all answers.

― Grell (Grell), Friday, 13 May 2005 02:08 (twenty-one years ago)

I CARE MORE ABOUT MYSELF THAN HER

And this is problematic because...?

I have been married for 20 years. I care more about myself than about my wife. That is because I live with myself every single moment and can never, ever, under any circumstances live in any other skin than my own. I kind of have to care more about me than about her. It comes with the universe I live in.

However, this in no way means I do not care about her as much as I do about any other person in my life, apart from me. I love her an care about her as much as I do my mother or my daughter. I want only happiness for her. The trouble is, it is conceivable that her happiness could one day be enhanced by choosing not to live with me. Whereas my happiness is not separable from me.

Gadzooks! Get a grip, questionizer. Sit still with yourself for a while and calm yourself. It's your mind. Get on top of it. If you can't, it's going to ride you like its favorite whore.

― Aimless (Aimless), Friday, 13 May 2005 02:19 (twenty-one years ago)

who cares?

― gabbneb (gabbneb), Friday, 13 May 2005 02:20 (twenty-one years ago)

Yes. This fellow has trouble mostly because he believes in his own illimitable genius so much he can't see two inches past his own nose. He has yet to start a thread that wasn't essentially a litany of "Me! Me! Wonderful me! Behold me. Gaze on me. Gather around me. Let me entertain me. Free admission to me. Hurry! Supplies are limited."

― Aimless (Aimless), Friday, 13 May 2005 02:33 (twenty-one years ago)

Aimless speaks some truth. The mature person thinks about the needs and happiness of loved ones after one's own needs are met, but if this prankster person has trouble thinking past his own wants, he's just a grown-up toddler, and shouldn't commit to his girlfriend because his girlfriend is well rid of him.

I was going to use this space to bitch about the idiocy of parents who proudly claim they live for their kids, but I guess that's for another thread.

gabbneb speaks some truth also.

― Rock Hardy (Rock Hardy), Friday, 13 May 2005 02:33 (twenty-one years ago)

Tell her all the stuff that I've been told in the last 4 months Select any of the following.
1. This is about me
2. I'm selfish thats just me
3. Even if I knew what your needs were I dont think I could give anything to you.
4. I need space.
5. your too nice, you give me everything, your not a challange
6. Im just not in love right now.
7. I love you but Im not in love with you
8. I want a go getter
9. I can see us getting together in a couple of months.
10. This is fucked i cant handle this.
11. I miss you, i need you to be you.
12. I don't know why I'm being such a bitch.
13. I'm leaving wait I dont even know what I'm saying
14. I love you this is making me sick

Basically if you have any doubts end it now before
the person you wed beleives that you are going to
get old and share your whole lives together because
when you want out it will feel like fucking dying
to your ex if they do truely love you. Be a fucking man
get out now don't hurt this girl anymore.

― dumped, Friday, 13 May 2005 18:14 (twenty-one years ago)

Aimless, have you not yet gazed upon this man's lumnious belly button lint? Verily, it shines with such a light that his omphaloskepsis may be excused. This is good too for he probably won't notice when she takes the hint and skips out.

― M. White (Miguelito), Friday, 13 May 2005 18:26 (twenty-one years ago)

Unfortunately Prankster lives with this person, no? In terms of the commitments being made, that's not really too distinguishable from being married. I'm guessing you're not allowed to have sex with other people either way, right?

― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 13 May 2005 18:42 (twenty-one years ago)

omphaloskepsis = best word of the day ever

Unfortunately, the Unfortunate Prankster is just confused. Apparently these sorts of thoughts appear right about the time someone seriously contemplates marriage... as confirmed by my coworkers.

I am sad that you all have to suffer through my recent binge drinking sessions, but in the sober light of day, these are ordinary concerns blown out of proportion by overthinking and exacerbated by excess alcohol.

The truth is pretty simple. The years we've been together have been some of the worst years of my life for various reasons, none of which are her. And she stayed with me through all this crap, which is beyond belief, honestly.

I read that there are four things that can dissolve any union:
Inlaws, Finances, Sex and Kids.

Then, I thought that they must have left off the sappy Tao wisdom type ending: "But that which endures is love," because all 4 of those issues should have dissolved us long ago.

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Friday, 13 May 2005 19:06 (twenty-one years ago)

Awww!

― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 13 May 2005 19:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Hope for the downtrodden... even crazy assholes like me can find a mate.

― Unfortunate Prankster (Unfortunate Prankster), Friday, 13 May 2005 19:16 (twenty-one years ago)

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