Hey, if someone gives you their phone number, how quickly do you have to use it?

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i met someone very sexy in a bar, and we had a very fun LESS THAN AN HOUR together in person, and I got this person's number, and we exchanged a few text messages, and both of us were keen on meeting up again. but we couldn't meet up again immediately because I was going to be in another city for a week or so, as I told this person, who texted back, "okay, let me know when you get back" or something similar.

now, it's a long story but I wasn't away for a week - I ended up being away for about six months. so, i've gotta admit, this meeting I described is more than six months ago.

is it it cheeky to contact this person?

― lazyashell, but not too lazy to log out, Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:38 (twenty-one years ago)

Why not? What have you got to lose?

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:40 (twenty-one years ago)

Lazy, a shell.

― Leon hearts Crazy Frog (Ex Leon), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:40 (twenty-one years ago)

I personally wouldn't. It seems creepy.

― Ian Riese-Moraine's all but an ark-lark! (Eastern Mantra), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:42 (twenty-one years ago)

you didn't tell them in the meantime that you'd been, uh, delayed in returning? if not, no dice.

― Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:42 (twenty-one years ago)

Again, why the hell not? You could at least send her a text. I'd be happy to hear from someone like that.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:45 (twenty-one years ago)

Things happen and some people understand that. Who knows. Again, what have you got to lose (apart from being disappointed)?

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:46 (twenty-one years ago)

well, I personally wouldn't because it would seem creepy. but a) i'm not actually creepy and b) i've got a choice between maybe being seen as a little creepy by someone i'll probably never see again anyway & doing nothing....that's it in a nutshell.

xpost: spencer chow understands

― lazyashell, but not too lazy to log out, Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:48 (twenty-one years ago)

What've they got to lose? A potential companion that could make all the difference!

― Ian Riese-Moraine's all but an ark-lark! (Eastern Mantra), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:49 (twenty-one years ago)

hey, it's worth a shot. i don't see anything particularly creepy about it.

― J.D. (Justyn Dillingham), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:51 (twenty-one years ago)

anyway, the main point is, is it best, do you (especially spencer) think, to play it cool, like "still wanna meet up?" or do a bit of blah-blah boring excuses and then say "still wanna meet up?"

― lazyashell, but not too lazy to log out, Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:52 (twenty-one years ago)

actually, thinking about this more, you guys are right. I'd want to hear from someone if they got in touch after six months, whatever the circs.

― Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:54 (twenty-one years ago)

like, i had written a text before that had "this is a bit embarrassing" or something in it, and my friend said i shouldn't do that.

xpost again

― lazyashell, but not too lazy to log out, Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:55 (twenty-one years ago)

I would acknowledge that it's ridiculous that you're contacting this person again, but don't make excuses initially. It will come up. Focus on the fact that you really liked meeting this person and just had to contact them even though it's a long shot.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:55 (twenty-one years ago)

Something like, "I know it's ridiculous to contact you now after so much time has passed, but I had such a nice time when we met and I couldn't get it out of my head. Would you like to perhaps meet up again for a drink or coffee?"

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:57 (twenty-one years ago)

Even if they never respond, it will be nice for them to know they weren't just forgotten.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 2 June 2005 23:57 (twenty-one years ago)

another friend suggeste this, which DOES sound to me a little creepy, but it is an idea. what do you think? i send a text to this person, but as if it is a person next to their's in the address book on my phone, i.e. imagine this person's name is "blonk", i write a message to them that begins "hi blonnie...blah blah", and when the right person writes back I say to say "you sent this to the wrong address," I say, "oh yeah so i did, but wait a minute how are are YOU etc" and if they do not write back i can write after anyway, "hi blonk, sent you a message by mistake, but anyway how are YOU etc".

actually, that is a stupid idea.

― lazyashell, but not too lazy to log out, Friday, 3 June 2005 00:05 (twenty-one years ago)

You lost me.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Friday, 3 June 2005 00:17 (twenty-one years ago)

don't worry about it. daft suggestion.

― lazyashell, but not too lazy to log out, Friday, 3 June 2005 00:32 (twenty-one years ago)

v daft

send them a message saying you met them six months ago and were away longer than you had expected and how are they?

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 3 June 2005 00:37 (twenty-one years ago)

i wouldn't do it. it's kind of "hi, you weren't important enough to text during the six months i was away, but now i'm back and i'm horny and i'm going through my little black book."

― The Pinup Girls of YANK (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 3 June 2005 00:42 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah, but if that's what what they think, what difference does it make to me? it's not really true. but it is that or nothing or...something else!

now, i guess i will try it. i just need to think what's best to write. anyone else apart from spencer and rjg have suggestions for that?

― lazyashell, but not too lazy to log out, Friday, 3 June 2005 00:54 (twenty-one years ago)

if you don't care what they think, why do you want to meet them?

― The Pinup Girls of YANK (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 3 June 2005 01:09 (twenty-one years ago)

Then again, what do I know? I tried to get in contact with someone I haven't spoken with in two years recently whose contact info I finally found (and we never fell out or anything, but something happened that caused us to lose each other's contact information and I know from one friend of mine that she was wondering about me, but that was way back when).

― Ian Riese-Moraine's all but an ark-lark! (Eastern Mantra), Friday, 3 June 2005 01:13 (twenty-one years ago)

Obviously if someone gives their cell phone number, you should instantly call to make sure their phone rings, at which point you can go "ah hah, now you have my number as well." If their phone doesn't ring, you know they have tried to fool you and you've called their bluff.

As for the six month thing, it's definitely weird but worth trying. What's to lose?

― mike h. (mike h.), Friday, 3 June 2005 01:28 (twenty-one years ago)

Spencer OTMFM.

― luna (luna.c), Friday, 3 June 2005 01:33 (twenty-one years ago)

To me the only real question here is whether this is someone you're interested in getting in touch with. You can't worry about how the other person will feel about it, because that's a Schrodinger's cat until you actually do it. So yeah, send a nice, short, non-creepy message and see how it goes.

― gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Friday, 3 June 2005 01:35 (twenty-one years ago)

I did the wait-too-long thing once and then when I finally made the call and left an answering machine message she erased it because she confused me with someone else with my name or a name that sounded like mine that she had met the night before but if she had known it was me she would have returned the call. How do I know this? Because I received a call sometime later explaining this and telling me "By the way, I'm moving to LA tomorrow, sorry we didn't get to know each other better."

So I guess what I'm saying is, make the call. Spencer, luna and gyspy mothra OTM.

― Ken L (Ken L), Friday, 3 June 2005 01:38 (twenty-one years ago)

To me the only real question here is whether this is someone you're interested in getting in touch with.

i am, but i did say i met this person for LESS THAN AN HOUR, so there might be nothing there anyway, but the point is that was the case six months ago anyway. i don't know, i just really was attracted to this person. god knows there are still a few dozen other 'random encounter' phone numbers on my mobile that i'm sure i'm not gonna use ever.

― lazyashell, but not too lazy to log out, Friday, 3 June 2005 01:47 (twenty-one years ago)

Make the call. If I was the girl, I wouldn't think it was creepy as long as you don't try to have PHONE SEX.

― Orbit (Orbit), Friday, 3 June 2005 01:49 (twenty-one years ago)

Be honest. Say what happened. If "this person" chooses to trust you, then fine. If not, then it is because of a bad experience you have no control over. Trying is better than not trying. Accept her verdict.

― Aimless (Aimless), Friday, 3 June 2005 01:49 (twenty-one years ago)

I met this blonde girl who's a massage therapist a few months ago at a friend's show. She gave me her card and her number (this never happens to me). Can I call her for a massage? How about a massage for my girlfriend?

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 3 June 2005 02:01 (twenty-one years ago)

it's interesting to note who's made assumptions (and who hasn't) about the gender of lazyashell and his/her object of desire (since LAH hasn't used any pronouns that would give it away).

jordan:

http://www.gothamist.com/images/2003_9_threescomp-thumb.jpg

"come and knock on our door..."

― l.o.g.g.e.d. out, Friday, 3 June 2005 02:14 (twenty-one years ago)

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