Why are men far more likely to write a 'Missed Connections' ad?

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I have made a missed conection post in the past week!

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Reply to: [email protected]
Date: 2005-09-23, 2:16AM PDT

Hey at Amoeba today you were like looking at the posters on the wall while standing in the used rock section. I saw you, went up stairs, and when I returned you were gone : (. You were a babe. Write me back. Cool

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Reply to: [email protected]
Date: 2005-09-26, 11:08PM PDT

I used to work at Ikea in city of industry and there was an asian man who checked me out. he was really cute but I was too shy to approach him. he was a little older than I am and he had another guy with him. This was quite a while ago when the IKEA was still there. I was coming out of the staff entrance when I saw him in the home office section. then i ran in to him on the stairs. if this is you, let me know. send me a pic.

Uh, maybe it's more the fact that you've taken off the rest of your clothes at this point?

It's just men practicing self-defensive behavior. Hitting on a woman unprompted is (can be, I guess) gutsy and could lead to rejection. Putting an ad on Craigslist after the fact keeps your hope alive, and any disappointment is more than diffused.

It's not all self-flattery and bullshit, however. There are myriad occasions when strangers wish to speak to each other but don't, for one reason or another.

Well, that girl OWES me a missed connection, right? I don't have to write it, do I?

it's always at the grocery store, starbucks, a random park, or in a car.

the girl is always gorgeous or stunning

75% of the time the girl is with her dog

the other 25% of the time the girl is with her significant other

See, the problem here is that you weren't quick enough with the sexing to keep him from saying something stupid. Next time he opens his mouth during amorous time, put a nipple in it. You'll both thank me.

Hahaha omg, you know what's funny about this? I have a bf who can vouch: I am statistically 17,439x more likely to put on the matching AP $300 sets that I own if I am furious at a man than if I am actually in a pleased mood with him and have any interest in having sex with him. If I'm in a good mood, I'm in my sweats and t-shirt and have lost the mismatched underwear I put on in the morning by the time he gets home.

So, by proof of science, wearing matching set fancy underwear means you HATE a man!!!

Anyway there is supposedly a man on Craigslist whose "Missed Connections" post was simply a general call out to all the women who shop in the Rosslyn Safeway for supposedly being hotties (this isn't really true, and I've looked with much disappointment since I was informed this ad exists) and wondering if any will go out with him. I didn't see this ad, but Tom did, and we had a good laugh. When I run to the Rosslyn Safeway with my sweatshorts and t-shirt and fucked up hair, I hope he realizes, I am doing it for him.

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My brother told me this really touching missed connection type story about a girl with green eyes he saw when he was in Portland. I framed this cover for him last Christmas and he hung it on the wall of his office.

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0761138099.01.MZZZZZZZ.jpg

Anyway, I'm a woman last time I checked, and I've taken out a "missed connection ad". I've told this story 100 times on ILX but I'll tell it again. I met a boy on the N train - we talked about architecture all the way back to Astoria. He gave me his phone number, but I went out to meet some friends for a drink, and somewhere during the evening I lost his number.

I took out an ad on the back page of the Village Voice, but I never heard from him again. This still makes me sad when I think about it.

Hours of fun...

Reply to: [email protected]
Date: 2005-09-29, 12:16AM CDT

You were walking down Guadalupe near UT.

I walked behind you for a couple of blocks.

I don't think you noticed me at all.

That's ok though, I saw where you live.

I love you. Can I stop by and watch you sleep?

* this is in or around Real Close
* no -- it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests

it's so fucked.

sam r, you lied to me!

bastard.

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BAR

stay classy kansas

lol @ GA

"She was gorgeous and in my back seat, if only I'd thought to ask her her name..."

(I know what they mean but I like my interpretation better)

wait, what the hell IN

I actually do find 'the car' kinda weird, like do people regularly flirt w/ people next to them in traffic

THE CAR is decidedly less weird than AT HOME

Tell me about yr parking lots, Rhode Island

omg the inset infographic re: site vs median age

this is the greatest map I've seen in a while

State Fair. Awesome!

Whatever the modern equivalent of "cruising the strip" is? In Georgia, I presume mudding or something?

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yeah I didn't see that

one thing that affects this is that craigslist is used super heavily in certain areas and notsomuch in others and the indiana # might be using like a sample of 14

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I wish SUBWAY referred to the restaurant

lol that was what I thought it meant #toomuchtimeonilx

seriously though, how does AT HOME work re: a missed connection

"dear girl who was in my house whom I was too shy to talk to, wanna come over for beers? you already know where I live lol"

or is this veiled incest trolling

"perhaps tomorrow morning I can flip your pancakes, mom"

haha!

A quick scan of the Indianapolis missed connections reveals that IN readers may interpret the function to mean "people who they miss"

http://indianapolis.craigslist.org/mis/

my sweet poison - 45 (near)
I miss you so much I dont know why we cant still be in eachothers life even if we are not together we can still have fun wityh just us wishfull thinking i know

How can I miss.. - m4w - 24 (Indy)
..someone so much but hate the sight of? You played me our whole marriage. I made a horrible mistake of pursuing elsewhere but I realized before I did anything with anyone it was wrong. It happened after you betrayed me the minute I was gone. Through it all you continued to stab me in the back any chance you could while I wasn't around. You projected your guilty conscience on me continuously throughout. You made me out to be the bad guy in front of others purposely to make yourself feel better and bring any bit of justice to your own thoughts for your devious behavior. I continuously caught you in lies and you'd admit to them and then turn around and completely deny them. Even your own blood knew what you were up to. Though now I am sure they would act completely oblivious and deny it due to the fabricated lies and false truths you have fed them about me. Even through all that I was still willing to forgive you. I had complete unconditional love for you. I continued to try and make you wake up to the fact of the selfish, irresponsible and self destructive road you are on will only lead to emptiness, unfulfillment and ultimately being alone but again you denied any wrong doing and blamed it all on me. I admitted my mistakes. I was not perfect but atleast I tried. I wasn't very good at showing emotions because I had never been close to anyone. You knew this and did nothing to help or understand, you just ran to other people who did not and will not ever care about you. You gave up a family, a marriage, a whole life to build upon for a childish and immature fantasy. You even went so low as to sleep with a so called "friend" behind my back and then say you wish you would have slept with more. The sight of you makes my blood boil and my stomach turn. The things you said to me run through my mind constantly. I hardly ever sleep. I can't even say the things I wish I could get away with doing to these boys you betrayed me for.

The question is how can I miss such an evil person yet in the mere presence of them be engulfed with such anger and rage?

Truth be told, it is probably the lingering presence of what love is still there..

so gonna happen

people sure do go to walmart huh

ayup

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lol

Brad C. otm.

everybody flirts (sometimes)

The sight of you makes my blood boil and my stomach turn.

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