What is everyday creepy behavior?

-people who don't talk much
-people who talk too much
-people who talk about sex a lot
-people who don't talk about it at all
-people who act kind of 'off'
-people who seem too 'normal'
-people who compulsively make jokes
-people who appear to have no sense of humor

and on and on and on and on. what a PROFOUNDLY USELESS WORD.

Ah, but what is 'off'?

"things that i have heard described as creepy:"

But, what do YOU think is creepy?

Actually, cross out that last line. I'm just wondering as to what people here concider "creepy".

Too late, Lurch, you've been caught. Better go hide out down in the sewer system for 10 years or so.

like people who always want your attention and acknowledgement or who always have to give you their dull opinion.

So this was a good example of my definition of creepy, because I thought he was being manipulative and deceptive about what he wanted. If he had approached me with "Hey, me and the wife are into 3 ways. You?" I actually wouldn't have found that as creepy.

dunno if that makes sense but it seems to broadly cover everything here. if someone behaves creepily and no-one is around (does it make a sound?) can they be behaving creepily?

That's a good way to describe it! My feeling of being creepy had all to do with how I was worried that the two girls (of course they were girls) would think that I liked one of them when really (no, I mean for real really) I don't.

Some people get nervous, ramble and say stupid stuff when they meet new people. Maybe you're reading too much into it.

Buying a B & S or Camera Obscura album wearing a black duffer coat on a hot summer's day

I mean, why do they do this?

It's not because they're about to get off as I've had it happen enough times where I've then got off the bus before them after a long journey. The only thing I can think is that they don't want to be bunched in by someone because they're worried you'll mug/molest them, which is weird, paranoid and therefore creepy.

Strangely I don't do this on buses. Creepy.

I do move over if I have a long way to go til my stop, in my defence.

Sitting next to me with your legs spread at 120 degrees so that your knees are rubbing against mine - THAT'S CREEPY.

Definitely agree with you Onimo on the caveman phenomenon - legs akimbo is crappy, macho bullshit... performed by those who are overcompensating for having tiny penises and have probably rarely seen a lady naked.

By a strange coincidence, that's my notion of civilization.

I think Aimless is right, a lot of behaviour which can be descibed as creepy (apart from clear stalkery knowledge-is-power stuff) is very subjective, and isn't always clear on paper.

I'm not loving a definition of creepy that seems to boil down to "overthinks things", for obvious reasons :(

Though I have learnt from this thread that I am, indeed, creepy.

Please see one Me and You and Everyone We Know (which includes a veritable rainbow of creepy beyond the twee variety).

Vice-like handshakes, on the other hand, just scream TINY PENIS and that's all there is to it.

Well, I usually sit in a window seat to begin with (looking for empty rows and not rude enough to then take an empty row PLUS the aisle seat discouraging anyone from attempting to sit--I mean I never ask people if I can squeeze past them unless there's just nothing available, personally, so I just try not to force people to have to ask), but when I am in the aisle seat and the window person gets out first, right, I usually don't move. One time, a girl came (on a very still-full train) and asked if she could sit and I DID schooch over--and she got MAD and yelled at me! I told her to go fuck herself and proceeded to throw my bags on the seat next to me after that, FWIW.

So, now I just squeeze my legs in to prevent psychos from yelling at me.

(my boss actually talked about this once and it's one of the tactics he uses to dissuade people from asking for that seat and thus more likely to get both seats to himself!)

(which obviously isn't creepy)

xpost uh

I went out with one guy who had the vice grip handshake, and he turned out to be respectably sized. This was all for the sake of research, of course. I do what I can to contribute to the knowledge base.

anyways...my vote for the world's creepiest people: cokeheads. shudder. and unfortunately i live in new york.

Bag chasing can go to some shameless extremes sometimes, for instance when your trick innocently asks, "Can you piss inside me?" Yeah, believe it. A person wanting to get more high so badly they'll not only be penetrated without a condom but won't mind smelling like 6th Street from the inside out to get that way. I usually respond with a curt "I'm pee shy, sorry," or if I'm really feeling cruel I'll say, "I can, you would most certainly overdose." And I think about those men hanging out in urinals in gay bars, making it a nightmare for people like me, just to take a piss, as they incessantly ask to drink yours, thrusting empty cups in front of you at the communal trough. "No way sponge bob, get your own high!" No wonder I'm pee shy

When I find someone creepy, it is usually because that person reminds me of someone I knew in the past who did something fucked up. It's an intuition based on a lifetime of experiences. For instance, I've had enough cases of weird stalkerish closet-cases who wanted to be my 'friend', to immediately know the signs and avoid it before it starts. I don't know what it is about me, but I seem to get one of those every year or two.

That's pretty close to my own definition of creepy as well.

I do a slight pivot if I'm letting a person out of a bus seat. My legs go into that 'debutante exits sportscar' position. Nobody's bitched yet.

However, I think after you've had a couple of experiences with genuine nutters, your creep-o-meter can get set a bit too sensitive. :-/

This strikes me as the height of presumption. The person who is sitting next to the vacant seat always has the option of scooting over or swiveling to let the other person in.

My girlfriend's dad told her that he thought my handshake was a little weak. I honestly didn't even realize. For me shaking hands is a bit of an odd custom anyway, plus having lived for a year in an Asian country where very limp and soft handshakes are the rule, perhaps makes me perhaps somewhat unenthusiastic in my handshaking, which I suppose may come off as limp.

Wait, are you trying to learn how to seem creepy or avoid seeming creepy? Specific examples, IYDM.

Maybe he plays guitar with his nails? That's what I do. Am I creepy just for growing out my fingernails?

So it is that an otherwise well-turned out guy with long fingernails might be creepy, yes. Or someone nice and charming who then starts going about Hannibal and licking a knife, whereas an obviously uncouth oddball doing the same would be just dangerous or funny, not actually creepy.

It's something about the subversion of charm. Related to that is false familarity. People giving indication that they think they have some level of connection with you that they don't. That might take the form of attempts at flirting/teasing or just weird comments about you that imply they know you better than they do.

I pay attention to what people say, but I can never do this.

Then again, a lot of people think I am creepy. So there you go.

But not everyone. I feel sorry for the people who can't, but they are often the ones who feel creepy.

I think very few people carry on doing things that they can see make people uncomfortable. I think some of the few that do are unpleasant men who take delight in embarrassing women, as a power game, or a seduction strategy.

Alba, this is very otm.

random stranger: "well that was shite eh?"
me: "aye mate"
rs: "that's two hours of my life I'll never get back!"
me: "aye haha"
rs: "you think that's funny? I've only got six months left!"
me: "em, what..."
rs: "cancer mate, I'm fuckin dying! hahahaha had you there mate hahahah cancer hahaha I'm just winding you up mate hahaha"
me: "em, haha, good one..."
rs: "no really I AM DYING OF CANCER HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!"

Well, I don't think it's quite as simple as that.

There's a certain stereotype beloved of newspapers, such as "balding, be-spectacled, loner" - as if being bald, or wearing glasses, or a single person are clear signs of a psychopath or criminal.

And should you happen to be say - gay, single, ethnic minority, handicapped, or even just shy - it's an oppressive word that seems to come up all too frequently.

And should you happen to be say - gay, single, ethnic minority, handicapped, or even just shy - it's an oppressive word that seems to come up all too frequently.

Yeah, a lot of people play the 'normal' game. I'm normal (which is a pretty meaningless word outside of broad parameters), therefore you are weird (again, a meaningless word used mainly by people who don't understand something). It's a power game.

what is it?

That's not creepy, just maybe a little... dorky? It's not a good habit either way, but I can't imagine being creeped out by that alone.

The fake/forced HA HA HA is definitely worse.

Maybe not a personal hygiene thing, those I've known with this 'condition' have all been creeps.

Or the guy you always catch looking at you?

The mouth breathers?

what do you mean by "socially maladjusted" here? Are you trying to say it doesn't mean just shy?

Ha, Laurel talked about this recently!

Fair point. It's certainly not the only dorky thing I do.

-- whiskeytangofoxtrot (brownston...), March 22nd, 2006.

as soon as i read that a pantera song comes up on my mp3 player....coincidence?