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Have you guys ever met someone who had a strikingly similar personality to yours, but were more superior to you in almost every aspect?

For instance, I met this guy at a party the other day. We're both movie buffs but he owns a independent movie store. We have the same taste in music but he's in the local 'scene' and what not. We have the same kinds of personality quirks but he uses them to become socially active whereas my slight eccentricities have made me alienated from the outside world. He has become successful is his artistic achievements while I can not pay someone to take notice of my work. No to metion, he also extremely good looking and a bit of a ladies man while I'm not goog looking (I'm not saying I'm ugly per se) and as far away from doing well with women as possible without being gay.

While talking to him I thought to myself, As long as he's around, I could fall off the face of the Earth and no one could care. I asked him, "what's your secret?" "To what?" "To all this!" "What do you mean 'all this'?" THE BASTARD DOESN'T EVEN KNOW HIS LUCK! The worse thing of all this that he's a naturaly cool dude. In fact I think he's awesome. I liked him far more than I know anyone else would enjoy my company. I left the party feeling small and empty. With people like that, why should I exist?

I'm not really looking for answers to that question. I just want to know if I'm the only one above the age of 18 out there who has felt that way. (Gosh, hopefully not!)

― Lurker McLurkerstein, Friday, 31 March 2006 02:26 (twenty years ago)

I bet if he started a thread it would be much better than this one.

― estela (estela), Friday, 31 March 2006 02:30 (twenty years ago)

i think comparing oneself to other people is going to inevitably result in this once in awhile. no matter how well you're doing, someone else is doing better.

― gear (gear), Friday, 31 March 2006 02:34 (twenty years ago)

Well, you were at that party, so perhaps you're not as socially withdrawn as you think. The thing that separates this guy from you is that he actually had the cajones to persue his interests and make them work. He found his niche and took a gamble in opening an independent video store, which just so happened to pay off for him. Why don't you do something? Promote shows or open a cafe or something-- it sounds as if you're just jealous because someone like you is doing something while you're not.

― naus (Robert T), Friday, 31 March 2006 02:42 (twenty years ago)

Lurker, I mean this in the nicest way possible: starting an LJ thread every time something like this happens to you isn't going to solve anything. Enough with the pain gardening already. Get out there, take a deep breath, use your grown up's voice, and make some friends. Call that girl from that other thread, the "closet slut", tell her you want to hang out, and when you've got a bit of a rapport going, admit to her that you're all thumbs when it comes to women. See what happens. You haven't done that yet, have you? I can almost guarantee that you haven't.

― Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Friday, 31 March 2006 02:54 (twenty years ago)

yeah, time to cut the apron/self-pity strings, my man; you seem nice but you need to start living. (that does NOT mean, by the way, that you should ride 2.7 seconds on a bull named fu manchu.)

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Friday, 31 March 2006 02:57 (twenty years ago)

He's likely got a much smaller penis. Or possibly none at all. So take heart in that.

― Forksclovetofu (Forksclovetofu), Friday, 31 March 2006 02:59 (twenty years ago)

I know you're just trying to make him feel better but we all know that isn't true.

― Jimmy Mod: My theme is DEATH (The Famous Jimmy Mod), Friday, 31 March 2006 03:12 (twenty years ago)

Have you guys ever met someone who had a strikingly similar personality to yours, but were more superior to you in almost every aspect?

i haven't met this guy, but i bet a million dollars that my ex's next boyfriend will be this guy

― electric sound of jim (and why not) (electricsound), Friday, 31 March 2006 03:20 (twenty years ago)

thanks for the advice, Tantrum. although I have no idea what "pain gardening" means.

Haikunym:what do you mean by "start living". I mean I go to school and I have a job. What else do I have to do?

― Lurker-Mania, Friday, 31 March 2006 03:58 (twenty years ago)

xxpost

Yeah, but he's prob'ly got herpes.

― Robocock (noodle vague), Friday, 31 March 2006 06:50 (twenty years ago)

The two of you should mate. That way you could have babies that were 75% awesome.

― John Justen (johnjusten), Friday, 31 March 2006 07:11 (twenty years ago)

PUNNET FUCKING SQUARE PROVES ME RIGHT.

― John Justen (johnjusten), Friday, 31 March 2006 07:12 (twenty years ago)

This is why it's good to be almighty

― Mr Jones (Mr Jones), Friday, 31 March 2006 07:18 (twenty years ago)

"I left the party feeling small and empty. With people like that, why should I exist?"

This makes me think of a Paul Giamatti character or Woody Allen or something. And yet it's nowhere near as cool.

It seems like in an alternate universe Lurker McLurkerstein is making the films, tv, and music that people like me love--and yet these threads are really boring if not annoying. Interesting.

― richardk (Richard K), Friday, 31 March 2006 12:16 (twenty years ago)

Get a myspace page and go crazy! Look at all the losers there. Too busy updating that crap to kill themselves.

― Pinkabilly Dots, Friday, 31 March 2006 12:19 (twenty years ago)

http://www.msyf.com.ar/imagenes/famosos/1F17WinonaRyder.jpg

― Konal Doddz (blueski), Friday, 31 March 2006 12:21 (twenty years ago)

He's likely got a much smaller penis. Or possibly none at all. So take heart in that.

Detachable penis = 1000 indie cred points.

― Markelby (Mark C), Friday, 31 March 2006 12:34 (twenty years ago)

http://usuarios.lycos.es/bbrp/matematicas/mat_2ACV06_1_th.jpg

― phil d. (Phil D.), Friday, 31 March 2006 12:41 (twenty years ago)

as far away from doing well with women as possible without being gay.

????????

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 31 March 2006 13:03 (twenty years ago)

you obviously have not met many gays.

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 31 March 2006 13:06 (twenty years ago)

Yes, teh gays are always getting women to sleep with them

― Dadaismus Is A Very Magic Fellow (Dada), Friday, 31 March 2006 13:07 (twenty years ago)

exactly

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 31 March 2006 13:09 (twenty years ago)

"Excellent"

― Dadaismus Is A Very Magic Fellow (Dada), Friday, 31 March 2006 13:10 (twenty years ago)

i met my hipster doppelganger tonight

― Tracey Hand (tracerhand), Friday, 31 March 2006 13:12 (twenty years ago)

thanks for the advice, Tantrum. although I have no idea what "pain gardening" means.

"Pain gardening" is just what it sounds like: methodically (whether consciously or unconsciously) cultivating your fears/neuroses/issues until they become a full-blown Thing That You Are Constantly Dealing With (tm). It's a term that myself & some older 'net friends of mine coined in response to the Livejournal / Myspace confessional blog culture that was just coming into being at the time.

― Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Saturday, 1 April 2006 17:07 (twenty years ago)

"This makes me think of a Paul Giamatti character or Woody Allen or something. And yet it's nowhere near as cool.

It seems like in an alternate universe Lurker McLurkerstein is making the films, tv, and music that people like me love--and yet these threads are really boring if not annoying. Interesting. "

Wow, I know it's kind of an insult but it's the coolest thing anyone has ever said about me! "He's like the guy from Sideways but even more pathetic." I'm going to rush over to the lab and come out with a new, more potent strain of emo! Now I have something to live for!

― Lurkster McLurkerstein, Sunday, 2 April 2006 02:34 (twenty years ago)

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