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because at the moment I feel like interpersonal relationships are nothing more than misunderstandings and hurt feelings. I feel we are destined to fight upstream through this life all alone. And no one's awake to commiserate. If you disagree, please convince me.

― Ms. S., Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

i am awake (just about) and i am sorry s, because it is super- tough when you are in that space: but i have friends who have found each other and are happy and not alone (as well obviously as friends who haven't and are not), so i disagree, even though i *bet* i distrust idealism and romanticism more than you

― mark s, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Yes, I agree completely with Mark. Life is about taking chances. Sometimes you will have setbacks, but the important thing is to not dwell on the negative things. Work them out and then realize that there are good things in life as well. Life is about taking risks - sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Life is never all bad nor good.

― nathalie, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Echoing the above. Risks? Plenty. Screw-ups? Numerous. Potential for love and connection? Always there. :-)

― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I knew there was a trick to this: I don't take enough risks.

― Gordon, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Give people time. Sometimes they'll surprise you w/just how great people are capable of being.

― Andrew, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I always used to feel this way, and then I met somebody GREBT at a moment when I had pretty much given up. So don't give up all hope.

― Nicole, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

''I feel we are destined to fight upstream through this life all alone.''

Unfortunately part of me agrees with this. I do feel alone at times. But what nicole said gives us hope.

― Julio Desouza, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

She has wise words, she does. :-) Trust me, this year I've often felt particularly low at points -- last year's breakup lingered more deeply in the mind that I initially cared to admit, and more than once, for the first time in my life, I've felt the sense of time escaping from me...days, weeks, months lost that might have been spent with someone. It's fairly distressing, but it's a bad perspective to take -- as Nicole says, unexpected changes happen, and often take you by surprise -- and make up for the lost times. :-)

― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

i think it's worthwhile to learn how to be happy by yourself

― Ron, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Happiness with oneself is important, certainly. But I'm a great believer in the idea that one can be both an individual and in a relationship, that you don't suddenly turn into a part-person unable to exist on one's own. I grew up in that situation with my family, so I don't think it's an impossible dream.

― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I am happy w/myself but at times I feel that it would be great to have someone else.

― Julio Desouza, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

me too

― Ron, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

matchmaker dave sez: well, boys?

― Dave M., Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I am happy w/myself but at times I feel that it would be great to have someone else.

My motto is "It's better to be alone for the right reason than with someone for the wrong," but I have a hard time believing it when the aloneness turns to loneliness.

― j.lu, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

ho ho. i just saw 'y tu mama tambien' so maybe if me and julio run off to the beach with my cousin's wife and get shitfaced on tequila, something might get off the ground

― Ron, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

dave- thanks for the matchmaking but no thanks.

ron- don't encourage him (having said that...if you could arrange a few hours w/your cousin's wife then that would make me much happier).

''My motto is "It's better to be alone for the right reason than with someone for the wrong,"''

It's important to not hurry into it...it's a difficult balancing act to pull off but you know I haven't experienced the consequences of any actions for such a long time really.

― Julio Desouza, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

shit, i forgot that none of my cousins are married. sorry, julio

― Ron, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

you lie ron! You just want keep me away from a few hours of happiness. I'm going home now.

― Julio Desouza, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I agree with Ms. S
I thought I'd never feel this bad again; I thought I'd never be affected by things like I was when I was younger. However I have a relationship that is so much more than misunderstandings and hurt feelings - okay so maybe I disagree, but I feel too alone...I don't trust other people, people who like and trust people too easily. Is it comforting or distressing, or something else, to try to always remember how soon we will be dead. I find it a good thing to remember this hwever at the moment it is also crippling because I want to get away from (one of) the people involved in my hurtness, but this makews me imagine him or me dying violently and how unbearable that would be especially if I was pushing him away

― skirler, Sunday, 14 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

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