ok, we like the same music...but you're a dickhead!

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Is having common musical tastes a solid basis for a friendship?
Apart from the obvious convenience of wanting to go to the same gigs & always having something to agree about.

― gaz (gaz), Wednesday, 19 March 2003 21:41 (twenty-three years ago)

or even the basis for a *relationship*?

― gaz (gaz), Wednesday, 19 March 2003 21:59 (twenty-three years ago)

i don't think it's totally healthy not to share ANY tastes with your friends or lovers...but i don't think i've ever had a friend (or lover) who's tastes overlapped with mine any greater than, say, 35% at the outset.

(also, don't discount the "growing together" factor.)

― jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 19 March 2003 22:58 (twenty-three years ago)

or the growing apart...

― gaz (gaz), Wednesday, 19 March 2003 23:00 (twenty-three years ago)

true. which is basically what's happened to me with my friends over the last few years. i gave my best friend cd-r's of my favorite tracks from 2002 over xmas and i can quite imagining him tossing them after one listen.

― jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 19 March 2003 23:13 (twenty-three years ago)

send them to me jess!

― gaz (gaz), Wednesday, 19 March 2003 23:17 (twenty-three years ago)

no good friendship i've ever had has been made better or worse by sharing music taste. and no acquaintance i've ever had has developed into a friendship by dint of strongly sharing music taste.

many people i've met who like the same music as me are people I would generally refer to as 'losers'. Note: these are just the ones I've physically met.

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 19 March 2003 23:34 (twenty-three years ago)

no one has my music taste that i know of in real life. Am I so out of touch?

No. It's the children who are wrong.

― Andrzej B. (Andrzej B.), Thursday, 20 March 2003 00:23 (twenty-three years ago)

so "musical taste" has nothing to do with "quality of person" then?

― gaz (gaz), Thursday, 20 March 2003 00:35 (twenty-three years ago)

not even slightly. i prefer to judge people in other shallow ways

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Thursday, 20 March 2003 00:36 (twenty-three years ago)

yeah, sorry, that was dumb

― gaz (gaz), Thursday, 20 March 2003 00:37 (twenty-three years ago)

hah, oh i think it does. to some extent.

― jess (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 20 March 2003 00:40 (twenty-three years ago)

but quality is a sliding scale, y'know?

― jess (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 20 March 2003 00:40 (twenty-three years ago)

Hahahaha, here's the first line from the first time I ever posted to ILX, quoted from memory: "perhaps it's not what you like so much as why you like it?"

The rest of the post was downright abysmal, but I think that line still has some validity. I'd possibly change it to "how you like it" now.

― Daniel_Rf (Daniel_Rf), Thursday, 20 March 2003 00:50 (twenty-three years ago)

It does yeah but not in any way you could generalise about. It's about how their taste interacts with the rest-of-them and the rest-of-you and all sorts of other nonsense - if a one-liner was required I'd say how someone presents their taste (in anything) is all-important. If they are forceful and so are you then yes you might need to agree on specifics.

― Tom (Groke), Thursday, 20 March 2003 00:50 (twenty-three years ago)

I had several friends whose tastes overlapped greatly with mine, but now we're - *sob* - growing apart.

I blame ILM!

― Keith McD (Keith McD), Thursday, 20 March 2003 01:43 (twenty-three years ago)

They were fuckers, Keith. Or not. ;-)

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 20 March 2003 01:46 (twenty-three years ago)

oh, there are so many fellow zappa-luvas that embarrass me ...

― Tad (llamasfur), Thursday, 20 March 2003 02:01 (twenty-three years ago)

"how you like it" now.

How ya like me now?

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 20 March 2003 04:41 (twenty-three years ago)

Me and my girlfriend first hit it off talking about how much Dave Matthews sucked.

― My name is Kenny (My name is Kenny), Thursday, 20 March 2003 05:45 (twenty-three years ago)

I think Nerve.com stakes its existence on people's hopes (expectations?) that people who like similar music and movies will hit it off romantically.

― Amateurist (amateurist), Thursday, 20 March 2003 05:47 (twenty-three years ago)

proved untrue by science

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Thursday, 20 March 2003 06:15 (twenty-three years ago)

then again my wife and i both loved the colors soundtrack and assault by a deadly pepa circa 89. And...hey!

― gaz (gaz), Thursday, 20 March 2003 08:49 (twenty-three years ago)

don't you mean a SALT w/a deadly pepa?

― M Matos (M Matos), Thursday, 20 March 2003 08:59 (twenty-three years ago)

of course i do matos...its been so long those initial attractions have become blurred. she wouldn't even know who Luomo was. Then again no one here knows who Bryn is.

― gaz (gaz), Thursday, 20 March 2003 09:45 (twenty-three years ago)

that's OK, yr post made me realize what the joke of the title was for the first time evah! (cos I am a idiot)

― M Matos (M Matos), Thursday, 20 March 2003 09:46 (twenty-three years ago)

''Is having common musical tastes a solid basis for a friendship?''

I have two good friends, one of whom I met at college, the other at uni and there's 1% overlap really.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Thursday, 20 March 2003 09:47 (twenty-three years ago)

overlap in other areas? or do you just like the way they argue?

― gaz (gaz), Thursday, 20 March 2003 09:53 (twenty-three years ago)

btw matos is neither a dickehead nor a idiot.

― gaz (gaz), Thursday, 20 March 2003 09:57 (twenty-three years ago)

Also, aren't the FAPs proof that a shared love of music itself, if not common taste, is a solid enuff basis fer friendship, or at least finding someone you'd wanna hang out with?

How ya like me now?

It's such a shame but I'm leavin'
Can't take the way you mistreated me
And it's crazy but oh baby
It don't matter, whatever
It don't phase me

― Daniel_Rf (Daniel_Rf), Thursday, 20 March 2003 10:23 (twenty-three years ago)

never been to a FAP. What happens apart from Ally gettin' groped?

― gaz (gaz), Thursday, 20 March 2003 10:26 (twenty-three years ago)

That's about it, really.

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 20 March 2003 10:27 (twenty-three years ago)

sharing music tastes could be a good starting point when you meet someone. but, yeah, you have to click in other areas to become good friends. i don't have too much overlap with my close friends or girlfriend, tbh.

― weasel diesel (K1l14n), Thursday, 20 March 2003 10:50 (twenty-three years ago)

consumer rabidness...its random sez ILM. Plus if you get to grope a hottie...bonus!

― gaz (gaz), Thursday, 20 March 2003 10:57 (twenty-three years ago)

They were fuckers, Keith. Or not. ;-)

I meant growing apart tastewise.

― Keith McD (Keith McD), Thursday, 20 March 2003 14:26 (twenty-three years ago)

one year passes...

man i feel this now

― bulbs (bulbs), Tuesday, 21 December 2004 13:19 (twenty-one years ago)

most of the people i've met who have similar musical likes as me are either obnoxious assholes or 2kool4skool snobs. It makes me wonder about what kind of person I am.

― Felonious Drunk (Felcher), Tuesday, 21 December 2004 17:20 (twenty-one years ago)

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