What is Robert Kilroy-Silks listening to right now?

Whilst his singling out of all Arabs was stupid and deserved to lose him his job, I hope that this comment does count for something and leads to more concern about how women are treated in the Arab world (not to mention gays as well).

There's a double standard, arranged marriages should be stamped out. It's outdated and institutionalised racism.

Why can't we just marry who the hell we want, regardless of faith or skin colour? There's a radical idea. I'm not married and refuse to control who I fall for - be they white, black, Chinese or whomever.

word.

the clash - white riot

As has, in our society, the idea of romantic love being the basis for marriage.

You've just never had it.

Yeah, I love it too. Doesn't seem to make for very stable relationships these days, though. I was merely pointing out that the idea of romance as the determinant of one's marital partner is a peculiar, reletively recent trend in human history. I can't probably escape it myself, but I'm not so arrogant as to deny that my upbringing has brought about this in me.

I'd have hung myself by now. My first girlfriend was evil.

Dur.

yup, plenty of encouragement of diversity there, and no judgement on other people's creeds and beliefs at all.

"All marriages. Fucking hell. Brain?
-- Nick Southall"

I just thought that was funny.

tom paulin said much worse, he's still employed.

i'm sure some of them do, but surely you can't believe that all of them do? i will never forget the day i managed to stop my friend being dragged, kicking and screaming, into the back of a van by her family, who didn't approve of her western ways.

kilroy-silk's article was particularly offensive because it lumped all 'arabs' into one amorphous bundle and instantly categorised them as 'the other'. it then conflated the worst policies of various arab governments and organisations with the views of arabic people all over the world. he was wrong to write it, he should have been fired, and i'm sure he's at home (coming back to the question) listening to...err....
oh, dammit someone's already mentioned the cure!
how about 'suspicious minds' by elvis?

as we speak.

it is unfortunate to use robert kilroy-silk as a jumping-off point for this type of discussion. to object to the principle of arranged marriage is not to subscribe to some loathsome anti-arab creed.

"Even Though You're Culture Oppresses Women, You Sill Suck You Fucking Towelhead"

You fucking towelhead
You wear a towel on your head, you fucking towelhead
I hate women, you do too
But you have a mustache, you fucking towelhead

[Chorus:]
Towelhead, towelhead. Towelheaad, you fucking towelhead (x4)

It's cool they beat up women when they show their head
It's cool they beat up women when they show their face
Those cunts have to cover their fucking ankle
You think you're cool cuz' you ride a camel

[Chorus]

as Asian Dub Foundation got mentioned.. i'd just like to say i saw them dj / mc in Hackney in 2000 and their MC was repeating "Kill The White Man" for about a minute at one point.

Maybe he was a big NOFX fan.

Dear Deirdre,

I have started seeing an older woman for sex. I told her I was single but now I’m scared she’s looking for commitment.

I’ve been married for ten years. I love my wife and we have no money worries but we live together like brother and sister.

Every time I touch her in bed she jumps like I’ve given her an electric shock. I then get fed up, turn over and fall asleep as I can’t be bothered any more.

She’s 34 and I’m 35. She can’t have children — which I don’t mind — but we haven’t made love for a year.

She has lost weight, although she was only a size eight. I’ve told her it’s unattractive but she doesn’t do anything about it.

We have good social lives but mostly go out separately with our mates as we don’t have the same interests. The trouble is I’m on the pull every time I go out.

That’s how I met this older woman. She’s 41 and a divorcee with grown-up children.

She has made no secret of wanting to have a full-on relationship with me as I told her I was unattached.

She’s a serious-minded woman and didn’t intend to have sex with me unless I gave her some real commitment.

But we got a bit drunk one night and went back to her place for sex and didn’t use a condom.

My lover says it’s not to happen again until I go to live with her — but what if she’s pregnant?

I’m not sure whether to tell my wife what I’ve done and jack in my marriage. We aren’t going anywhere anyway.

Since my wife went off sex we’ve tried to talk about it but she just gets upset. She’s told me she would understand if I wanted to have an affair.

At one point I realised I was being cruel, so we agreed to work harder at things.

I’ve tried to be more attentive but I just end up feeling rejected.